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      ocean20
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      I am pretty isolated with my abusive OH (far from home not really any friends to speak of), but I finally opened up to a new friend today about some of what I have been going through.
      I do feel guilty for putting on her (as we all tend to do) but what a weight to know that someone close (geographically and someone I trust) knows. I don’t feel as alone.
      She has been so supportive.
      She has said she understands I can’t just leave and it’s never easy but she has assured me non of it is right and her heart is breaking for me.
      It’s so strange to feel empathy and compassion from someone. I have become to used to my pain not being heard.
      I also worry about the logistics of getting away. But she has offered a place to stay that’s safe and rent free for as long as I need whenever I need. I feel so unbelievably grateful for her and like there is some light at the end of the tunnel when I am ready to go.
      I can only encourage you all to open up to someone you can trust. You might feel so helpless and alone but you never know how they may be able to help. And trust me they will want to help x love to you all

    • #168473
      Better-days
      Participant

      I am so pleased for you opening up can be extremely hard and you have done a huge thing I’m glad u feel better xx

      • #168493
        ocean20
        Participant

        Thank you so much it feels like a huge step in the right direction x*x

    • #168474
      nbumblebee
      Participant

      What an incredibly brave thing to do. A huge well done sweetie. Baby steps right? This is most definatly a huge step and the first one in a long line of steps towards freedom and safety. Well done. Keep talking just keeping talking xxxxx

      • #168495
        ocean20
        Participant

        Thank you so much x definitely baby steps but steps nonetheless. I read your post earlier today but didn’t reply just yet. And I had it in my head just keep talking just keep talking like that sweet little fish from nemo. I myst sound crazy!
        I had a facial with a friend who’s training in psychology and who suffered (detail removed by Moderator) abuse herself. She’s was asking me some prying questions and I just broke down and she was like I knew it! I’ve known it for months. And we cried together and she’s given me so much good advice too. I don’t intend to tell anyone else until I’ve broken free (excluding services that will help me) but it feels like I’ve got a little group of cheerleaders looking out for me now.
        The light at the end of the tunnel feels closer.
        I appreciate you and this community so much x*x you all gave me the courage to speak up and confirmed none of it was okay x

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