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I called 101 for help as my partner won’t leave me alone so far ive had (removed by moderator)bwomwm cone forward that he’s been messaging via fake accounts behind my back …I called them as even tho I found this out he hounds me to take him back . I can’t be munipulated again in taking this man back or made to feel sorry for him which I’ve done before! This (removed by moderator) turned up at her house crying . Contacted my cousin … And I actually believe it or not feel sorry for him!!! But I’ve been humiliated again!!! I won’t and can’t take him back …. But do you think 101 has even contacting me? No! A week today!!! I felt like ending my life rather than taking him back . I just wanted there help I was desparate and they’ve done nothing . Isn’t it any wonder women either take there own life’s or get pushed to taken others or even more get killed by the abuser! Is there any wonder when our police don’t take it seriously . No one really knows how bad this abuse is in suffering
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I know how you feel. Keep chasing them and if your ex turns up then Ring 999. Tell your friends and family to tell him to leave them alone. This is part of the hoovering stage. Playing the victim. Looking for sympathy and for your own friends and family to put pressure on you to take him back. It’s harassment pure and simple. Meantime keep a journal of dates and people he contacts. Ring 101 and make a complaint. Making an official complaint will get things moving for you. In my experience it’s whoever shouts the loudest will get help x
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It’s so bad … Not only have all these women come forward so that alone is killing me! I know have him telling he he got a problem and he needs help . It’s just for an ego boost!?!? But it’s the 3rd time now I’ve caught him only this time the fake a count and yet another snap chat also .which I was completely unaware of . This is the hardest thing I’ve had to do in my life .now I feel bad on him . He’s saying he can’t live with out me . He going to kill himself please help girls this is awful 💔
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You need to go total zero contact and that includes your friends and family passing on his lies. Definitely report his threats of suicide then when he’s threatened with being sectioned let’s see how quickly he changes his tune. Do not believe a word he says. He can’t even be faithful to you, that’s how much respect he doesn’t even have for you.
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Hi Louloubee,
I’m sorry to hear about what you’re going through; it’s understandable why you’re feeling so low. Are you in touch with a local domestic abuse services? They may be able to give you some advocacy and support with the police, as well as some emotional support.
Remember you can also always call the Samaritans on 116 123 if you ever need to talk.
Take care,
Lisa
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Keep logging every time he’s contacting you with the police. I know it’s frustrating but every time you log what he’s doing, the more evidence of harassment the police will have.
If that’s too much at the moment then do focus on looking after yourself; give yourself time and space to feel overwhelmed- everything you’re feeling is valid; it’s a perfectly natural response to the abuse and trauma he’s put you through. Like I’ve said if you feel like talking to someone would help then you can give the Samaritans a ring. But there’s also no pressure to do anything if you don’t feel up to it.
If you’re needing some practical advice tonight then you could also speak to the National Domestic Abuse Helpline on 0808 2000 24 7. If you can’t get through then do leave them a voicemail.
Just take everything step by step and keep reaching out for support,
Lisa
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