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I’m trying to leave an abusive marriage. I have got the (detail removed by moderator) but it is very hard to change how I actually live. We have children and one has disabilities which makes it hard to access childcare. I’m getting some respite support but just cannot work out what to do. He won’t move out, I can’t buy him out, he won’t sell, I want to rent/ buy but can’t afford it unless we sell the house. I work and need him to look after our child after school. I know I need more childcare but it’s so hard getting all the pieces in place. I’m asking social services for help but getting no where. Meanwhile I am yelled at (in front of the children) absolutely constantly. He calls me a c***,pig, disgusting person, waste of space, piece of s**t, neglectful mother, mental…it is so destroying. I get it before I go to work, when I get home, all the time. He’s always threatening to throw my possessions away. I feel so stuck. I have considered asking for an occupational order but am not sure it would be awarded. He does shove the door on me and bash the wall and surfaces with his fist but does not hit me so I don’t know if that is enough evidence. I keep telling myself to (detail removed by moderator) but I’m worried that I’m going to end up divorced and still living with him.
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Contact your local women’s aid and you have to let your partner know that you have to sell if you can’t come to an agreement ultimately that’s what’s gonna happen so no point arguing unless he will buy you out I’m sorry you are having trouble try look on the government website for advice for childcare I know you can get a childcare allowance usually if child has disability up to £1000
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Morning Tired of this,
I’m sorry to hear you’re struggling at the moment. It’s understandable; its sounds like it’s such a difficult living situation for you and the children.
If you’re not already in touch with your local domestic abuse service then as Mellow has said, this might be a good next step. I think you’ve had legal advice in the past, but if you are in need of this then your local service may be able to help you access this. They might also be able to give you some support with social services and give you some ongoing emotional support whilst you’re in this situation. You can search for their details here.
If you wanted to get some legal advice around the Occupation Order you could speak with DV Assist who are a specialist injunctions service on 0800 1958699.
Do keep posting to let us know how you’re getting on,
Lisa
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