Advice please

[Helpagirlout]

Hi all

I know my relationship isn’t in the best place and we’ve always argued but things are getting worse.
I (detail removed by Moderator) and knew hubby would go mad, so I said to the kids I’ll tell dad (but not that day as we were due to go out and he’ll make the day horrendous) anyway I told him (timeframe removed by Moderator) later and he went mad how I had lied and made the kids lied. He said he wouldn’t have minded about (detail removed by Moderator), it’s the fact I lied. But this is where it went from bad to worse as he literally went mental at me, physically and emotionally!

I know I shouldn’t have lied but i knew he would react badly and so did kids, they’ve seen him go mad before (normally just verbally abusive!!)

The fact is he has shown no remorse and acts like he doesn’t care that’s how he reacted. He said I deserved it for lying. He’s said I’m manipulative as I didn’t want to ruin the day out (and get my own way!)

I know I need to get out, but how do you start? I have no idea!!!

[Better-days]

Hi I hope you are ok. I know I need out of my relationship too and after being on this forum for years now I have gained courage to actually see myself leave. I have been taking steps to leave although for me it’s been difficult. I join own a home with him so it’s been hard. I don’t know your situation around housing ect but I’m here anytime and the others on this forum have helped me out massively. Reaching out to your local woman’s aid would help. It took me a very long time to do that but after I did I felt so much better. Xx

[Helpagirlout]

Thank you for your reply! We also both own the home, although I work I only do PT hours! I’m definitely going to reach out for advice after messages and reading on here! I know it’s never a nice time but feels particularly sad at this time of year.

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