19th September 2023 at 11:30 am #161789IncognitohumanParticipant
I just kind of want to know if anyone else has had this experience and it it is abuse?
My abuser is my dad. He will often create arguments and try to pick a fight with me to justify hitting me.
Last night he tried to pick a fight with me over the news. Whenever the topic of sexual assault comes up in the news he uses it as an excuse to be aggressive, yells a lot, loses his temper, sometimes throws things etc. I try to ignore him and leave the room if I can but he’s noticed me doing so and will now stand in the doorway yelling at me so I can’t leave.
He hates women, will openly admit that, so when these topics are on the news he tends to twist it to blame me? Says that I am the kind of person to make false claims, I hate men for no reason, people like me deserve to be hit etc.
Is this a common thing that abusers do? When I have been seeking help and talking to the likes of police about his behaviours and they ask what kind of things set him off and what signs there are how can I say something like the news? It sounds made up right?
Thanks for taking the time to read.
20th September 2023 at 4:14 pm #161817LisaMain Moderator
Welcome to the forum and thank you for your post. I’m sorry to hear about your situation.
Abusive men have no respect for women, its all about power and control for them and they don’t like it when women try and set boundaries, stand up for themselves. It doesn’t sound made up, what you have described is misogyny and he is choosing to be abusive and create this unsafe environment for you.
stories covered in the media can be really triggering. You can access free online courses created by or in partnership with therapists specialising in trauma at Bloom. These courses can be accessed in your own time and at your own pace and cover topics such as trauma, abuse and boundaries.
Take care and keep posting
7th October 2023 at 1:55 pm #162211StrongLifeParticipant
Sorry this is happening to you and glad you walked out of room when you realised.
Do you have tv elsewhere – ie your room that you can watch or watch something on your phone for entertainment?
Hope that helps
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