29th October 2018 at 11:08 am #66352MypalnoahParticipant
I understand I should contact womens aid directly but everytime I think about doing so, i get a surge of anxiety.
So all I’m after is your opinion please as it will in still some courage within me to take the next step.
I have a (detail removed by moderator) and his father and I are no longer together although we visit for him to bond with baby.
Currently I am living with my parents who have a very traditional mindset and my son is born out of wedlock. Everyday with my parents is torture, the emotional and mental abuse is unbearable for me and I want to go.
Today I am at my son’s fathers home and due to go back tomorrow however my mother has called me and given me an ultimatum that I either break all contact with the father or I break contact with them.
At this point I do not want to go back to that he’ll hole and the father does not want me here too.
Will anyone help me? I want to run away somewhere away from these troubles altogether and start new. I need a roof over me. On these grounds, can I get into shelter?
29th October 2018 at 11:10 am #66353freedomtochooseBlocked
hello there well done for posting. I have just flagged this up to LIsa hope she will post a response soon. all best ftc
29th October 2018 at 4:26 pm #66359
Welcome to the forum. I hope you find it a supportive place to be. Every refuge is run individually and they make decisions on whether they can accept someone into the refuge or not. Domestic abuse is abuse from a partner or family member and you have described the abuse from your parents. The National Domestic Violence Helpline can help you look for a refuge space, you can call them on 0808 2000 247.
Take care and keep posting
30th October 2018 at 2:35 pm #66402MypalnoahParticipant
Thank you so much. I found a space xx
30th October 2018 at 8:47 pm #66417
Thank you for letting us know, all the best on this next stage. Do post if you need any further support.
30th October 2018 at 9:38 pm #66421IwantmebackParticipant
This is good news mypalnoah. Be safe, Love your baba, love the peace and quiet.xx
7th September 2019 at 7:48 pm #87536BadunkaduParticipant
I’m in a quite complicated situation and probably will need a refuge but can someone explain to me how it works with the rent?
How to know if I’m entitled? And if I can pay? It’s quite urgent ☹️
8th September 2019 at 7:56 am #87570
The helpline will help you to find a refuge and the refuge will sort out all the payments for your stay there so please don’t worry. The helpline will do a refuge search for you and put you in touch with refuges that have availability on the day that you go, the refuge will go through a risk assessment with you to check that it would be a safe area for you and that they can support you then following on from that they will help to sort out your benefits and housing benefit covers your refuge stay.
I hope that helps you.
7th September 2019 at 7:56 pm #87538[email protected]Participant
it depends on the area your in? i know its a small amout off rent if your offered a flat with wa xx and you get it for a year – have you called the helpline – id imagine refuge is free and they help you to get universal credit xx
7th September 2019 at 7:58 pm #87539YellowflowerParticipant
I believe refuges are free run by charities. They will then help you with finding a more long term safe place. Call women’s aid and ask for help with refuge x*x
10th September 2019 at 11:03 pm #87820AaaagaParticipant
I and my daughter lived in refuge. We lived in community house(not shared with anyone). The rent was really high but all cover by housing benefits
When I got there I had to sign contract. There was weekly rent (average price for a rent in area) and service charges (almost as high as rent) both covered by housing benefits, because I had to leave my job before moving there.
I only had to pay £22 per week for gas and electric and reduced council tax. They helped me with applying for Universal Credit so had some money to live off
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