This topic contains 5 replies, has 4 voices, and was last updated by  Iwantmeback 9 months, 4 weeks ago.

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  • #66352

    I understand I should contact womens aid directly but everytime I think about doing so, i get a surge of anxiety.

    So all I’m after is your opinion please as it will in still some courage within me to take the next step.

    I have a (detail removed by moderator) and his father and I are no longer together although we visit for him to bond with baby.

    Currently I am living with my parents who have a very traditional mindset and my son is born out of wedlock. Everyday with my parents is torture, the emotional and mental abuse is unbearable for me and I want to go.

    Today I am at my son’s fathers home and due to go back tomorrow however my mother has called me and given me an ultimatum that I either break all contact with the father or I break contact with them.

    At this point I do not want to go back to that he’ll hole and the father does not want me here too.

    Will anyone help me? I want to run away somewhere away from these troubles altogether and start new. I need a roof over me. On these grounds, can I get into shelter?

  • #66353

    hello there well done for posting. I have just flagged this up to LIsa hope she will post a response soon. all best ftc

  • #66359
    Main Moderator

    Hi there,

    Welcome to the forum. I hope you find it a supportive place to be. Every refuge is run individually and they make decisions on whether they can accept someone into the refuge or not. Domestic abuse is abuse from a partner or family member and you have described the abuse from your parents. The National Domestic Violence Helpline can help you look for a refuge space, you can call them on 0808 2000 247.

    There is more information about refuge on the Women’s Aid website or you could contact your local domestic abuse service for support in the community.

    Take care and keep posting

    Best Wishes,


  • #66402

    Thank you so much. I found a space xx

    • #66417
      Main Moderator

      Hi mypalnoah,

      Thank you for letting us know, all the best on this next stage. Do post if you need any further support.

      Kind Regards,


  • #66421

    This is good news mypalnoah. Be safe, Love your baba, love the peace and quiet.xx

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