Am I setting myself up with abuse again?

[survivorabuse]

I left my abusive husband (number removed by Moderator) years ago now

Now I am with someone else now who is showing some signs similar to my ex   If I am just being paranoid about things

My (specific detail removed by Moderator) lost her job (timeframe removed by Moderator) and so she asked me to go for a drink for her to drown her sorrows and when I told him he said not allowed. I went anyway and nothing happened

I had a phone call from my colleague because she was doing (specific detail removed by Moderator) and he couldn’t get through to me and said who were you talking to male or female

Then he said I want to be able to get you on the phone whenever I want so when I call you answer me

I really like him but I don’t want to get myself into another abusive relationship  I wasn’t on any medication but now I’m on a cocktail of medication because of the stress I had endured with my ex

 

[Chillijam]

I’m not in the greatest situation but I am trying to learn to go with my gut. I would say if something feels off then it probably is. You bravely managed to get away from someone abusive before don’t push the feelings of unease down. If you like him perhaps communicate your personal boundaries such as finishing your existing calls before you call back etc then if he doesn’t respect them, run a mile and break the cycle?

[Author]

Posts