Am I the problem?

[purplepenguin]

My story is a long and complicated one, but I will try to keep it as brief as possible. My partner and I were together for (removed by Moderator) years until my family got involved and threw him out of my house. They did this because my two children were upset about the arguing between me and him and involved their grandparents. After about (removed by Moderator) years apart, we reconnected and have been seeing each other for about the past (removed by Moderator) months. However, arguments are beginning to creep in again between us regarding what my family did to him and he is becoming increasingly angry about it. None of my family like him, which obviously I can understand but I still have strong feelings for him.
His daughter is angry about how her Dad was treated by my family and creating a massive rift between us. She has recently found out that she is pregnant (removed by Moderator) And has told her that she is disgusted with me as I have not personally congratulated her. As I thought she couldn’t stand me, I didn’t think she would appreciate a message from me, congratulating her on her pregnancy. She has told her Dad that the relationship is doomed and he should just break it off with me. He has told me that he is considering doing this and has been increasingly verbally abusive towards me but I just can’t seem to let him go. I don’t know why?
Sorry for this sounds totally confusing, I’m confused and emotionally hurt myself!.

Can anyone please help and advise me on what I should do? Thanks in advance x

[purplepenguin]

I forgot to ask but he has asked me to choose between him or my family (except for the children). he said that if I want to be with him that have to be the rules because of what they did to him (changed the locks and threw him out).
I know they did this against my wishes and at the time I pleaded with them not to do it but I don’t know if I can go through a life not having contact with my parents. is he being unreasonable to ask this of me?

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