Another abusive relationship

[True2myself]

Hi everyone. It’s been over a year since I posted about my (detail removed by moderator) marriage of abuse. I eventually met someone new and everything was great for (detail removed by moderator) and everything changed. He started to message women then he used my past abuse to control me by putting fear in me and now I’ve found myself back to square one. Police, courts, marac meetings and during all this had a miscarriage that was very traumatic reminding me of my past sexual assault. I have cptsd and struggling very badly

[Lisa]

Hi True2myself,

Thank you for your post. I’m sorry to hear about your situation. What you described sounds really distressing, you deserve to feel safe and can understand this must be really triggering for you. do continue to reach out for support where you can.

You may want to contact Rape Crisis. They are a national organisation that operate local centres for women who have experienced rape or sexual abuse. They are now contactable via their 24 hr helpline on 0808 500 2222; they also have a live chat service (available Mon-Fri) through their website.

Take care and keep posting

Lisa

[True2myself]

Thank you so much

[StrongLife]

Sorry this has happened.
I had a 2nd relationship after first abusive one. Again stealing, lying, another women – weird behaviour. All leading to more I was sure. Only lasted a short while. He knew about the first but again not listening to my thoughts or wishes. Wanted me to move in straight away etc.

There is so many men out there that are abusive.

Sorry this has occurred for you.

[True2myself]

Thank you. I see now I was used the whole time. He also used my past to control me.

[Babyface@]

I’ve done this twice too now.The problem is I don’t think people have any idea this happens by chance not by choice 🤔 I feel so isolated are you finding the same?

[True2myself]

Thank you and sorry this happened to you too. Yeah I’m totally isolated. I kinda was anyway cos of my first ex. That was a long marriage. But yeah now I lock my doors again and I stay upstairs so he can’t see me. I’m a mess

[Babyface@]

I’m sorry to here that it can be so hard to push yourself to do stuff. I try to get out for long walks with the dog I feel quite lost tbh.

It’s lovely to find a niche here if that makes senses I’m actually quite relieved reaching out xx so it is nice to meet you

[True2myself]

Thank you. Yeah I trying to go walks just too much happening just now that I don’t feel so safe outside. Its nice to meet you too

[StrongLife]

It’s clear there are a lot of men being abusive.

I see it all the time, just in how men react to women, comments.

It would not be unusual to come across a number of men.

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