13th February 2020 at 6:47 pm #97632[email protected]Participant
Just when I think I’m
Ok my anxiety rears it’s ugly head. I just wonder if this is normal? I haven’t had anxiety for many many months. Suddenly out of nowhere I have these pangs in my stomach feeling like I’m not in a safe place. I know in my self I am being irrational.panic sets in 🥺 Does anxiety creep up on us for no good reason. I’ve been comfort eating ☹️So that makes me feel better then worse xx I know I need to address this sooner rather than later. Maybe this is all part of the slow process of healing god knows xx sorry I’m being depressing!! Needed to get this out though xx ❤️
13th February 2020 at 9:28 pm #97654LandyParticipant
I’m having the same problem. And the strange thing is, I’ve never been an anxious person. I think I made such a huge error of judgement with him that I doubt myself all the time. Over the tiniest thing. Been in my job over (removed by moderator) years and suddenly think I can’t do it. Worry that bad things are about to happen. I think, I hope, it’s just part of the recovery process x
13th February 2020 at 9:43 pm #97659fizzylemParticipant
Hey flower, well it’s either the past haunting you or there are things in the present that you feel anxious about but maybe aren’t able to pinpoint because there are two or more things occuring; it seems to get complex when it is a combintion of things for most people, like complex very quickly / wood trees thing; or there is something troubling you in the pesent and it’s also stirring the past. Quite often we feel anxious when we know we need to act but feel unable to give the self what we need, thus get stuck in it. Comfort eating is a quick fix isn’t it and a way to cope, like reaching for alcohol; anything else you could reach for? Something else? Yoga? A run etc? Anything relaxing?
You tried writing down your thoughts to try and unpack it a bit more? Might be some links? Might see some that you identify as being from the past?
Google CBT 11 irrational beliefs, see if you can put any into these categories, can help us to identify if they are irrational or if it’s because you need to act, fight or take flight, find a solution or put them aside, see them for what they are. Big hugs to you lady xx
13th February 2020 at 10:14 pm #97669HunkyDoryParticipant
Hi chik is it linked to seeing that family member when you were out? It’s probably all part of the process we go through, but you recognize it for what it is, a passing phase. Soon we’ll have lighter nights and if you’re anything like me it gives me the energy to eat well and exercise out in the fresh air. Take some time to relax every day, listen to some nice chilled music or meditation and breathe…. xx
14th February 2020 at 5:42 pm #97730HopeLifeJoyParticipant
Anxiety is part of recovery yes.
Every week I’m anxious about something else. Always new things. It’s exhausting, consuming and my self-esteem takes a big hit.
E.g. A new cafe opened up in my street. Normally I would think, great, I can get my lunch there from now on, that’s handy. But instead I am not happy at all about it, I already wished it would burn down to the ground. Because I still see danger everywhere I think how all customers sitting in that cafe will have a direct view of the front door of my building able to keep track of the movements of its inhabitants. I imagine a psychopath with stalking tendencies will sit there watching my every move. Needless to say this is irrational fear. The cafe hasn’t even opened yet. I am in no danger. And to counter attack my fear, when it’ll open, I’ll go and order a coffee and sit there myself. There! In your face anxiety!
I agree with Fizzy. Assess if it’s irrational fear or real danger you are in. Let you fear speak to you and listen to it fully. Acknowledge it, let it have its voice because it never was allowed one when you were abused. Then counter argue with rational thoughts. See which it is – genuine fear or irrational one – and act upon it. Soothe yourself by being very gentle and loving with yourself if the fear is irrational. Take action, be assertive, move heaven and earth to change your situation immediately if the danger is real.
And above all keep breathing. Concentrate on breathing. Calming yourself. Telling yourself you’ll be ok. It will pass. You’ll be ok in a week.
Sending big hugs as well lovely 💕
14th February 2020 at 11:47 pm #97743JanedoeissadParticipant
My anxiety comes and kicks me in the a*s frequently..
Sometimes I can pin point why, other times I can’t.
Some days it’s low level, others it leaves me on the ground in tears.
I think it is part of healing. Your body was on red alert for how ever long you were with your partner, switching that fight or flight mechanism off won’t happen over night. It will take a long time.
It’s something I hate my ex for. He made my life hell and his parting gift was this anxiety.
Keep strong though. You got this and you will have good days again.
15th February 2020 at 2:50 pm #97779[email protected]Participant
Thank you ladies ❤️ I feel better today – someone triggered me off by saying they would do leave if I wasn’t happy. It wasn’t meant but it triggered me off really badly. I know that I’d be ok on my own but when threatened with it I’m a crumbling mess. It’s trauma and conditioning I know it is – something’s just stay dont they xx but yeh I’m getting there I just have to see myself as less vulnerable and more of the warrior princesses we are ❤️
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