Avoiding places/events due to fear of ex

[littledove]

Hi everyone,

I am supposed to have a (detail removed by moderator), it’s a relatives kids bday party. Me and my child have been invited.
But I’m second guessing whether to go because I’m scared people who are invited may know my ex. And then take things back to him that I was there with my child and plant ideas in his head.

I know this is no way to live and I could be missing out on a lovely day with my little one and her playing with other kids.

But my anxiety is really bad just now and I’m just overthinking everything to do with him.

Should I just go??

Also whilst I’m here I’m also feeling guilty for taking time off work. I feel they are annoyed at me and think I’m c**p employee. I hate letting people down and I just feel rubbish that I’m needing time off for my mental health 🤦🏽‍♀️

[KIP.]

Hey mental health is just as important as physical health so there is no shame in taking time off. In fact it shows incredible awareness which is good. I wouldn’t go anywhere which makes you anxious. You won’t always feel this way but youve been triggered lately and are vulnerable so take a back step to regroup x plenty time in future for parties etc x be kind to yourself and be your own best friend.

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