Can you give me some hope?

[Starla]

I’ve been out for less than a year. I’m really struggling with anxiety and depression. My self esteem and sense of self worth is lower than ever. Can anyone give me any hope that I’ll feel better and happier soon? It hurts nearly all the time, I’m struggling to sleep, and everything feels bleak and hopeless. I want a bit of happiness but it doesn’t feel like it will ever be possible

[Camel]

Hello Starla

Yes, it will get better but everyone needs support of some kind to get there.

Everything always seems bleaker at night. It’s a lonely place to be and you must try to reach out. Would you call the helpline and speak to someone better qualified than me?

Wishing you good luck x

[HopeLifeJoy]

Hi Starla

I would go see your GP and tell her/him about your health, your depression, anxiety and struggles with sleep. She might offer you to take anti-depressant or sleeping pills and refer you to see a counsellor to pull you out of this black hole.
In any case seek help, this will help you feel better, reduce your anxiety and depression, restore your confidence and with that in place you’ll be a little happier and feel more confident.
It does get better, I’ve been through depression and anxiety and the nightmares and insomnia, the nights have improved greatly, I still struggle with some anxiety and depression because I relapsed but it is nowhere as bad as it was.
So to give you hope, yes it does get better, much better, what helped me also is to read about depression and anxiety and to recognise it is an illness that can be treated.
Sending you strength and hugs, you’ll get out of this 💪💞

[Twisted Sister]

Dear Starla

I think any one of us suffered abuse coul and possibly has said or written exactly what you have. You are not alone in feeling the horrible effects of abuse.

Some do recover very well from having read and heard many womens stories. It does involve being distanced from the abuse/it stopping.

I imagine the likes of sally challoner might never really recover without some very powerful interventions.

It can take years of therapy, it certainly takes understanding on our part, to learn how its affected us, and learning what helps us to feel better, learning to actively seek some joy in our lives, learn kindness and travel this recovery journey with self-care and love.

At night the samaritans can help you not feel so alone with this, they are not da specialists but there are many that understand, and more so all the time i think.

Find support and validation for your experiences locally if possible.

Have you tried the freedom programme? Women running these also have connections with other groups and supports for this specialist trauma recovery.

Warmest wishes

TS

[Alicenotichains]

I am not a natural athlete but I started running and that helped me. I am very slow but when I finish a run I feel stronger. My anxiety is more controlled and I feel calmer. Set yourself little goals, even it is something simple like cleaning a cupboard and just build from there. It doesn’t have to be a big thing that you do but achieving on a small scale can be good for self esteem in my experience x

[fizzylem]

Guess it’s really about making sense of it all, what happened, why and how, working out how you can use what happened to strengthen, rather than feeling swallowed up by it all. It’s about taking from it to inform your life, your choices, your future, what were the lessons? What did I learn about me? It’s about learning how to respond to your thoughts, emotions self, others and the world; giving yourself what you need. By doing these things we build resiliance, the know how for life. It’s about deciding how you want your life to be then making each step you take a step towards these goals and dreams – so that one day you get the life you really want x

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