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      Catjam
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      He is in charge of people at his job. (detail removed by moderator) left claiming they couldn’t cope with the way he was so his employer sent him on a course and to talk to a management specialist. Hubby came home bragging how easy the guy was to work, the report came back that the fault wasn’t with hubby. He now denies ever saying that about the guy.
      Then a few months back another complained but said they couldn’t explain what he said or did, it was just ‘off’. Nothing happened.
      (Detail removed by moderator) new starters after they went back after being furloughed have quit because of him. 1 actually turned to him and said that hubby was an intelligent guy who know exactly what he was doing. Lots of tears on (detail removed by moderator), him claiming he might as well be dead. His job was ruined, his wife doesn’t love him. Luckily I didn’t hug him or anything, I suggested he seeks help. He claims he has rung a support group loads in the last few weeks.
      I got home from work to find items smashed, not his fault something fell. He is all sweetness.
      I broke my own rule and checked his call log, he rang the place once. He is going to go to work (detail removed by moderator)  and threaten to quit because he has done nothing wrong. Yesterday he started being really close to me, not in a threatening way but going out of his way to touch me, this is something I have asked him not to do until I am ready.

      He claims he has no clue how he is, my sister thinks that it’s so ingrained in him that it’s just how he is. She can’t stand the man so wouldn’t defend him.
      Do I call him out on his lies about ringing the support group for help?

       

       

    • #111513
      Catjam
      Participant

      Apparently the person who complained about him has retracted it. But hubby told me he intended to resign over it (detail removed by moderator) but actually he quit (detail removed by moderator). So work are now bending over backwards to pacify him.

    • #111598
      Lisa
      Main Moderator

      Hi Catjam

      I just wanted to show you some support. It sounds like your husband doesn’t take any responsibility for his behaviour. He’s not actually trying to get any professional support but expects it from you which is unfair considering how he has treated you.

      I hope you have some support in place as this must be very difficult for you,

      Take care and keep posting

      Lisa

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