I received a hefty Clare’s Law disclosure about my ex-partner’s history of domestic violence. It was far worse than I thought. But I’m left feeling quite confused too… (detail removed by moderator)
I feel so oppressively frustrated that he seems to be able to manipulate the Justice system and Social services as well as his partners. And we’re not allowed to talk about the details of what’s disclosed to us, it’s maddening and I feel so powerless.
I don’t know whether prosecute because prisons are full and so I have to seriously trust in the Rehabilitation System or live in fear ? I have a duty to prosecute for the women who may come after me.
The other thing is that I feel hugely let down by the police who were called to an incident where I’d been hurt by him but was protesting that it was an accident. Why did the police then not see it as a duty of care to disclose his history of DV with me then, and save me years of emotional abuse, thousands of pounds, and all the rest of it.
I feel I could fight this all my life and get no where. But if I don’t fight it at all, I’m letting it happen.