Coercive Financial Control

[WoundedGeek]

Hi. I’m new here. I am a victim of coercive financial control. I struggle to accept that it is abuse, and that other people will treat it seriously. I know that it is, because it has shredded my mental health and caused physical harm due to the anxiety, depression, insomnia etc. Having someone tell me what I can buy, what I can eat, manipulating every decision and being abusive/insulting/bullying if I question anything is hard to get evidence for to prove to other people that it is real. I keep saying to myself that I am a victim of abuse, but it still feels like I don’t 100% accept it.

[Lisa]

Hi WoundedGeek,

Thank you for your post. I’m sorry to hear about your situation. It can be really difficult to name it as abuse- part of coping is normalising what is happening. It sounds like every aspect of your life was controlled and monitored- you deserve to feel safe and to heal from this.

I would encourage you to contact your local domestic abuse service if you haven’t already. They should be able to provide you with ongoing support with what you are going through.

Take care and keep posting

Lisa

[bluebird28]

This is how i feel too, i am feeling confused too right now as he is being so nice and its messing with my mind, i am trying so hard to not let it get to me i am worried he is trying so hard to be nice, except swearing at the kids, my son asked why dad was in a mood (timeframe removed by Moderator) as he suddenly had  ago at him? gosh he is like Jekyll and Hyde i never know.. But we have to remain strong,its so hard i know but this is them carrying on the way they like to, maybe its mind games i don`t know.. but we haev to not be fooled..

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