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      savingthestars
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      Hi Ladies.

      I am a bit confused, emotionally.

      I feel at peace. I mean, I know my ex abused me, and is still a danger, but I feel at peace. I am not hygienically being affected, if that makes sense. I know I have my own thoughts, my own wants etc. I am due to have a psychological assessment, as is he. I am unsure whether I can just co-parent with him and ask him or his family questions, like I would if he wasn’t an abusive person, but I feel I can. I just don’t want anyone to think I don’t see him as a threat, or he’s not that bad. I just don’t see any need to keep pointing out the dangers, because its not my responsibility. It is the professionals, and if anything happens to my kids (almost especially the one that isn’t his) then it’s not on me, its only on me to comfort them at a later date.

      I mean its partially because this person is banning me from getting my children support, and how that looks, but I am a bit confused

    • #110552
      Anonymous
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      Well done for getting out of that marriage /relationship savingthestars. It takes alot of courage.

      I think if you feel that you can Co parent with your abusers family etc then you could try maybe with his family. I suppose it will be nicer for the children if you could but you have to do what feels right for you.

      And I would say if you think your children need some support then get them some support on the day/days that you see them etc. You’re the mother and sometimes we do know what’s best for our little people. Good luck with it all x

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