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      Hi, all. I’m new on here and hoping someone can give me advice. My ex has been taking me to court for access to our (removed by moderator) child, who he abused and who no longer wants to see his father. My ex is saying in court that ,if at the end of proceedings, our son still won’t see him then he will withdraw his application for a child arrangement order. My ex took our life savings and I am paying all my wages on solicitor’s fees to keep my son safe. My ex is only doing this to keep some control but it is crippling me financially. My question is this – if he withdraws his application (so that he can start it up again in two months, no doubt), will I be able to claim costs? I know costs aren’t normally awarded in child hearings but surely it would be different if he withdraws application? Any advice welcome.

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      Hi, I would get onto your solicitor or citizens advice and ask them. I personally would not know but I would imagine they would. Sounds like you have your hands full with all of this. One thing at least that as your son is a (removed by moderator) the court will listen to what he wants so if he does not want to go , he will not be made to x

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      Hi Goldengirl,

      Welcome to the forum and thank you for your post. I’m sorry to read that your ex is continuing the abuse via child contact, sadly many abusers do this after the relationship is over.

      I think you need some legal advice regarding this. You may be able to find out the answer to your question by looking at one of the following websites, or contacting their helplines;

      Kind Regards,


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