I don’t get the chance to log on to this forum as much as I used to. I’ve been busy trying to rebuild and make up for lost time during those months/ couple of years when I was no good to anyone, and was just going through the motions at work. I don’t know how my employer was so patient. I’m trying to give back.
I’ve done a lot of reading a research these past couple of years or so, learning a lot about abuse.
Like many of you, I have found that the effects of abuse are hard to get over, even after you are out for a long time. Triggers are everywhere.
I am posting because I wanted to share that my reading has recently turned to subjects like ‘creating a sense of safety after PTSD’ etc. There are a lot of helpful articles online if you type in such a heading, about how to create little oases or anchors during your day that help you to feel safe and centred.
It’s retraining your brain. The brain has been left damaged by the trauma, but it is neuroplastic and it can be altered by such repeated rituals- it suggests doing these approximately six times a day.
It takes effort to heal the traumatised brain. But if, when we are out, after all the long questioning which brings no satisfactory answers ( there is no rationale for evil ) we can turn our attentions to our own physical healing, it can be done, if slowly.