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    • #32727

      I went to the dentist today and had some cosmetic- rather than necessary- work done.

      At first I felt plagued by guilt, as it cost a little bit. I’m so used to spending everything on my kids.

      However, looking in the mirror at home, I feel so much better! I felt so buoyant about it, it inspired me to do more for both my kids and I! It wil stop me feeling so self-conscious.

      Importantly, even though I brush my teeth regularly, I haven’t had any extra treatments for years, because I never felt entitled and couldn’t afford it anyway. The dentist was lovely: he said he can tell a lot about a person’s history from their teeth, and said he can tell I haven’t cared for myself as well as I could have done. He said some of the problems I have were more common 20 or 30 years ago in this country, but that nowadays people normally take preventative action. My self-esteem must have been so low, I neglected myself.

      I’m having more work done gradually over the next year, some necessary and some cosmetic.

      Onwards and upwards!

    • #32729

      That is great news๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€don’t forget what I told you that I had done, I like to show my teeth now, it’s a great feeling ๐ŸŒฑ๐ŸŒฑ๐ŸŒฑโคโคโค๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿ’ช

      • #32731

        Hello both

        Congrats on recent news!
        I totally understand how low self esteem and survival can act together to stop us doing things for ourselves.

        It took me until recently to get my ears pierced because I was brought up to neglect myself being told that it was <common> to wear earrings!! Even at a subtle level I think we can tell ourselves that we dont deserve these things as an echo of ill treatment.We may not be aware of these nasty messages but then in time we realise that actually we very much deserve happiness and more.Treating ourselves is a major u-turn in our personal psychology and shows that the past ice is starting to melt leading us on to better times. We are starting to own a lovely inner smile!

    • #32774

      There are so many opportunites nowadays to get yourself into tiptop condition. Not just to look good psycially but to get your body into a really healthy condition. Information is available everywhere you look. For myself I feel so much better, sleep better and feel more agile when I exercise and eat really healthily. Its all down to exercising regularly, eating healthily, fresh air, good sleep, avoiding stress. Your beauty will radiate from within with or without makeup.

    • #32775

      Thanks ladies!

      Sorry Lisa, I posted this message in the wrong section.

    • #32787
      Peaceful Pig

      That’s great, well done! I have a very special divorce present lined up for myself. It’s nice to matter isn’t it ๐Ÿ˜ xx

    • #32895

      Im having a brace but can’t afford to pay for it all at once, so am paying in instalments.

      There’s all kinds of options out there! xx

    • #32897

      I like the idea of a divorce present. I might get my doggie then. It’s nice to have the time for myself too. To put make up on. To buy something without having to hide it or be criticised. He hated when I bought clothes. He spent more on alcohol. I suppose it could have been anything. Just an excuse but it was always around things that made me happy. Good riddance to bad rubbish. Whatever it takes to regain that confidence โค๏ธ

    • #32908


      Getting a dog might also help you feel safer x

    • #32915

      I had my teeth professionallying whitened I, ve got a smile like Farah Fawcett๐Ÿ˜†๐Ÿ˜†๐Ÿ˜†

    • #33020

      HA: ๐Ÿ˜‚

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