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      Television1
      Participant

      Hi, So basically I was with my ex boyfriend (detail removed by moderator), we had some bad verbal arguments to the point I had to hide from him down the road/ down streets behind shops and had to ring the police on him a few times. Anyway we went on holiday and he strangled me on the (detail removed by moderator) night all because I asked for a taxi home. He pinned me down to the floor and let go ( it lasted about a second or two). A random man rang the police abroad but when they came I told them he didn’t do anything.

      (detail removed by moderator)

      (detail removed by moderator) and that’s stopped the voices and since he is a changed man. He has (detail removed by moderator) also and is waiting for a medication review to start meds for that as well. I do love him and I went (detail removed by moderator) without seeing him but stupidly met him (detail removed by moderator). I feel so guilty on my mum ,dad and friends who obviously really dislike him.

      do you think he will change and the medication will help him change and will my family understand this or do I be strong? I was so upset for the (detail removed by moderator) split and don’t want to go through that again, saying this I blocked him (detail removed by moderator) but I’m tempted to unblock him again.

       

      thank you d

    • #172064
      Lisa
      Main Moderator

      Hi,

      Thank you for your post. I’m sorry to hear about your situation. What you described sounds really frightening.

      There is no justification for domestic abuse. There are lots of people who suffer with their mental health and they do not treat their partners in this way. Its completely your decision- your safety is the most important thing.

      Best Wishes

      Lisa

    • #172069
      Allornothing
      Participant

      Hiya, sadly in my experience the answer is no and I have seen others on here say the same.  I went down every route with my ex – his ex-wife, certain alcohol, depression, the medication, missing the medication on certain days, his job, his family – it was a vicious circle and when things were ok, it was a case of waiting for the eruption.

      They manipulate, use your empathy, promise you the world, threaten to take their lives – anything to have that control back.

      I know this probably isn’t what you want to hear, I do firmly believe that once your eyes are open you become stronger and slowly you start taking steps to back away until one day it will click.  Look after yourself and I think by you asking the question, you possibly already know the answer.  Sending hugs xx

    • #172180
      Television1
      Participant

      Thank you both for the answer.

      i have decided to be strong and it has been 10 days since I last seen or spoken to him, I know this is very early days and I am back to missing him desperately and so close to unblocking and meeting up with him again. If I didn’t love my family so much I would without doubt that’s how weak I am. I feel so guilty on my parents and now xmas is coming up I feel even worse. How long will I feel this sad and when will I be over him

       

      thanks

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