do the convicted seek revenge after a lengthy jail sentence

[Ohmydays]

(detail removed by moderator) after the attack I still have nightmares, he is behind bars still but can apply for early release next year or at most he has to finish the ten year sentence and a further 4 on licence …I worry he will come find me , he was imprisoned before and used to stalk the women he attacked unbeknown to probation ( and myself) is this just my unrealistic thinking … that he would seek revenge

[KIP.]

Hi, have you had counselling. Good dedicated trauma counselling? Counselling helped me come to terms with my fear. Every psychologist or psychiatrist I’ve spoken to have told me that my ex won’t come back to hurt me again. Now he’s been outed and I have stood up to him, he won’t see me as a victim or prey anymore. It’s hard to get that red mist out my head though. The red mist he used to go into where he just didn’t care. But I won’t allow contact. He will never get anywhere near me ever again. If he does, he will feel the force of the courts and the police again. I don’t know your case but I really doubt he’d be stupid enough and he won’t want to go back to prison. I think he’s more likely to look for fresh victims far away where nobody knows him. I’d be more concerned that you’re still struggling with nightmares and perhaps untreated trauma which is increasing your paranoia. You don’t want to spend the rest of your life in fear. You need to find peace in yourself.

[Ohmydays]

Thank you for your comments….I had councelling years ago not long after it happened, so I kinda thought that would be enough , I agree partly that he would find a new victim , I know I have anxieties about it all still and try to put things in perspective and ignore my irrational thoughts, I just know what he is capable of… prison doesn’t scare him but he still scares me even after all these years

[everythingwillworkout]

I’m so sorry you are feeling so frightened. It is entirely understandable 💕. Is there anyone you could get advice from on this? I really am not sure as I don’t have any experience, but I’m sure there will be some kind of support or advice service. Have you considered Victim Support? Or calling women’s aid? Have you moved since he was put away and changed your name online and phone?

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