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    • #136313
      Darcy
      Participant

      Hi beautiful strong wonderful powerful ladies,
      I wanted to just post to say don’t ever give up hope
      Don’t ever stop hoping that your life will change
      Easy for me to say right…Wrong!
      I didn’t leave my ex overnight and jump into where and who I am today
      The journey continues everyday
      But I never gave up hope that day by day my life couldn’t improve on the day before and I still believe that and find the good and positive in everything around me
      Please do not ever think that you cant change the situation you are in, however long you have been in it or however trapped you feel
      Just have the intention that one day you will leave … and you will my angels
      My ex was an abusive violent man and I had no plan as to how I could ever escape him but in my mind I began to, until one day I actually did
      I still to this day don’t know how exactly how I managed it … I just knew that this was not going to be my life forever and never gave up the hope that I would return to being me again
      Get real with yourself, get honest, face your fears and sit with the uncomfortable emotions burred deep inside you… this will give you strength to leave the past behind and open the door to your next chapter
      Sending you all continued love and support
      Darcy xx

    • #136314
      Dreamingoffreedom
      Participant

      Thank you so much for this. It seems so logical and easy to leave, yet it isn’t. I know I’m further on my journey than I was, lots of it thanks to this forum, but this post makes me feel less like a failure. Hopefully 2022 is my year, as well as all of the others who are struggling out there. X*x

      • #136334
        Darcy
        Participant

        Remember this is your journey and it is a process
        Its step by step, however small those steps may feel they all count
        Use all the energy you have wisely, not for making yourself feel bad about the fact you have not yet left … it will happen so keep the faith … alot of it I know is blind faith
        Keep the focus on you, he doesn’t need to know what’s going on in your mind … get it strong and focused and my angel you can achieve anything this year
        Sending you hope, love and continued support
        D xx

    • #136317
      Watersprite
      Participant

      Happy New Year to you Darcy thank you for your wonderful post and happy new year to everyone here. You are so right there is always hope – perhaps only those who have truly walked through hopelessness can know what that means. Hold on to hope no matter where you are on the journey. It can be hard to see and I find that too abuse and PTSD and guilt – but hold on through those times. Someone somewhere is going through the same thing and just as on New Year’s Eve as every day the sun sets and so it will rise tomorrow. Set your intention for 2022 – what’s your intention? My wish is for safety for us all and hope always. For me I will have a home of my own for me and my family at long long last 🙏❤️

      • #136335
        Darcy
        Participant

        That’s such a lovely post watersprite, thank you
        Keep that intention for your home of your own and reinforce that everyday
        Sending you new year wishes, continued love and support
        D xx

    • #136336
      nbumblebee
      Participant

      @Darcy your words always inspire and are beautiful. Ive said before and most likely will say again and again i cant see a way out I just carry on each day in the jope it will get better on its own. Your words make me feel less of a failire i guess makes me think that its ok to not know where you are going, to not have the strength to leave. Thank you. Happy new year to you I hope you continue to grow heal and love xx

      • #136538
        Darcy
        Participant

        Just continue that Hope my angel and grow and strengthen it everyday
        To get out of things, we have to go through them
        Small steps WILL add up to one big leap … just don’t stop trying
        It is never too late to start again
        Sending you continued love and support … Happy New Year my darling
        D xx

      • #136563
        nbumblebee
        Participant

        Thank you. I just feel empty numb like ive given up.
        I see now but now what?
        I thought it would push me make me stronger make me wanna leave make me feel better about myself it doesnt. I just feel done. Xxxxx

    • #136339
      Kitkat44
      Participant

      Thank you for this post. I felt sure I would be gone by new year but I’m working very hard to trust myself to know when it is the best time. And things haven’t quite fallen in to place just yet but I do believe they will.
      Sending everyone here peace and love xx

      • #136359
        gettingtired
        Participant

        I am exactly the same as you @kitkat44. Let’s hope 2022 will be our year to finally leave x

      • #136540
        Darcy
        Participant

        Trust that you will know when the best time is … you have all the answers deep inside you … you just need to stop and listen to your heart … it wont let you down
        Sending you continued love and support
        D xx

      • #136554
        Kitkat44
        Participant

        Darcy I love this thank you, I do keep trying to listen to my heart (heart math practice) it is so wise!
        Xx

      • #136556
        Darcy
        Participant

        It’ll never do you wrong if you truly listen to it ❤

    • #136342
      Cocktails3
      Participant

      Happy new year Darcy. You are such an inspiration.

      • #136542
        Darcy
        Participant

        Thank you my darling Cocktails3 … Happy New Year to you!
        I am just sharing what worked for me … I want a happy and safe life for you all and to empower you with what I have learnt along the way
        Please beleive there is a different, better life out there just waiting for you to say yes to it
        Yes it will be scary leaving but living with an abuser is also scary
        Sending you continued love and support
        D xx

    • #136381
      Wants To Help
      Participant

      You are so right Darcy, Happy New Year to you, I love to read your posts as they all show there is indeed a life out there after abuse and are very motivating.

      xx

      • #136544
        Darcy
        Participant

        Thank you wants to help… Happy New Year!
        We have to share and focus on the positives… there is another way to live and when we all come together and support each other as women we can all grow and strengthen and become empowered
        Sending you continued love and support
        D xx

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