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      RavenSapphire24
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      hi everyone, this is all very new to me and never thought this would happen, I just came out of an abusive coercive relationship about (time frame removed by moderator) Neighbours called the police and that day I decided it’s enough, he his me on (number removed by Moderator) occasions and pushed me down the stairs, I cannot stop thinking about it all.

      This is horrible to go through. I’m due to be back at work on Monday but I don’t know if I am ready.  I’m so angry at this man for doing this to me! I went into this relationship with an open heart and open mind and he just used me!

      I hate him so much! I have all the symptoms of trauma and I can’t focus or concentrate, but people tell me you need to this and you need to that and you need need need do do do.. like I just want to be left alone and not see or talk to anyone!! Why must everyone try fix fix fix me to get me to move on quickly and like just snap out of it?!? I don’t know does any one have any advice?

      thank you

      Raven

    • #173753
      minimeerkat
      Participant

      are you getting support from your local da service & have you considered counselling because these are the very people who will understand exactly how you are feeling at the moment.  because its so difficult for others to ‘cope’ with what we have experienced – they may mean well but unfortunately can do more harm than good with their responses.  you are naturally suffering from what you have been through so will be quite vulnerable at the moment so wondered if you had thought about contacting your gp – to make them aware of how difficult you are finding it all.  i know everyones different & some people find immersing themselves in their work etc help them at times like this but others can find it isnt something they can cope with at all. so try to make yourself & your needs a priority doing only what feels right for your mental health x

    • #173772
      EvenSerpentsShine
      Participant

      This is REALLY early days for you. The shock is awful and, maybe too soon to go back to work, only you know how you feel about that.
      Yes, people do love to boss us about don’t they! Ha ha. I think lots of people just don’t know what to do with this information about abuse. I think they feel angry that someone has done this to you/us, and the only way they can express their anger and helplessness is this way.

      I just try and feel compassion and gratefulness that they care… but it can be really annoying to be pushed faster than you want, to do things.
      At this stage, I would advise, definitely trust yourself  and your own feelings.

       

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