Drink spiking advice

[Wood]

>How do I know if I was spiked? Im really struggling with this. I don’t remember most of the night. I met a guy in a hotel and i had a few light alcoholic drinks before he arrived to settle my nerves. I was only slightly tipsy when he arrived. He bought us drinks at the bar and brought them up to the room.

>I remember absolutely nothing after this point. Until hours later I ‘woke’ to him pulling me down the bed by my legs into ‘position ‘ and then having sex with me while pinning my arms above my head and holding my neck. That was at (time removed by Moderator). So from around (time removed by Moderator) till (time removed by Moderator) I am completely blank. And I know we had sex earlier in the night because I was already naked when I woke and he had used the shower etc.

I’m so upset because I can’t remember having sex with him earlier on in the night or what happened at all. I’m so embarrassed as I was making it my business not to get drunk and make a fool of myself.😳

>I’ve had little blackouts before from too much drink but I’ll always remember snipets of the night, particularly sex!! But this feels different, I don’t even remember feeling drunk in any way.

Can anyone advise me please?? Has anyone had a similar experience? Thanks in advance ☺️

>Update: Just to clarify, that I knew what I was going to the hotel for. I knew we were primarily meeting to have sex (apologies if that sounds rude!) but that’s partly the reason why I don’t get why he would spike me. 🥺

[EvenSerpentsShine]

This sounds like a horrible experience and maybe you could go to the police if you feel worried, especially if you know his name etc. there may not be anything that they can do this time but having your complaint listed would be very helpful if he’s a serial rapist.

I think it’s more about control than the sex itself.

He sounds like a dangerous person.

I hope you can report him and I’m really sorry this happened to you.
You are in the right place to talk more about it if you want to.

xx

 

[Lisa]

Hi Wood,

You might find the information from Rape Crisis on spiking helpful. They also have a 24/7 helpline and live chat service where you can speak to a specialist advisor. Even if you weren’t spiked, you clearly weren’t in a condition to be able to consent to sex. It’s understandable that you’re finding it distressing not being able to remember what happened.

Best wishes,
Lisa

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