Escape time… right plan?

[Flyflyaway]

Hi all,

I’ve made a plan to escape today whilst my partner is at work. I’m going to pack his stuff and leave it in a car boot that he has access to. And then il stay over my friends in till things die down. I’m nervous because it will mean he’s homeless, he’s from a different country so has no family here apart from two friends who live in bedsits. I feel like it’s my responsibility to make sure he’s ok being in a feign country. Or should I let him stay whilst I go to my friends and give him a week to move out? I feel weird and sad because he’s been good the last couple of days

[Tiffany]

He won’t move out if you leave him in the flat. Your plan is probably best. Have you spoken to Women’s Aid?

[MsTaken]

He’ll be fine in his friends bedsit. He’s not your child you don’t have any responsibility towards him. Do what you need to do xx

[backtome]

I agree, you need to get him out in one swift movement – no pre-warning. I tried the pre-warning and giving notice a few times and it never worked, he never left. My final straw was to just wait until he’s out and change the locks.

I also was making him homeless (he’s not from a foreign country though) and I had huge guilt about this, but I had to put it aside and thanks to this forum and other help from Women’s Aid I came to understand that he was not my responsibility, he’s the same age as me and can’t stand on his own two feet – that’s on him and his upbringing, not me.

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