Hello. Recently separated and going through divorce process after years of people (friends, family, professionals) telling me my marriage was toxic and emotionally abusive. Eventually I realised too, but still very recently.
My (soon to be) ex, who before, prioritised work, himself, friends, going out, sleeping, TV is suddenly wanting the kids 50:50 (detail removed by Moderator) He also has a history of mental illness that he is now denying.
I have been majority caregiver for kids whole lives, and he has not had the kids alone for more than a few hours before our separation, has never been involved with kids activities, parties or schooling. (detail removed by Moderator) he is claiming that he has been a very involved parent and that I have needed him as I have found parenting difficult. The lies and the twisting are awful, but I feel hopeful (detail removed by Moderator) I can prove how uninvolved he has been and how much I have done alone. And how well rounded and happy the kids are, given everything.
He is now also “stopping” work and can have the kids “any time”…!
Looking for advice but largely reassurance on this!