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19th September 2019 at 12:33 pm #88266TobfreeParticipant
Trying to figure out abuse and the excuses they use to abuse us is doing my head in
And when u stand up for your self he all ways trys to make out your the abusive one to himAnd then plays the with holding affection and nice comments and support
Is this just designed to brake us downSo we just sit there and do nothing when they are being abusive to us
Fed up of stupid mind gamesI have much more important stuff going on to be bothered maybe i should just not take it on board
And ignore his games
Which is very hard to do as they designed to hurt u make u feel bad guilty and insecureJust got to stay pos n take one day at a time
Surround my self with folk that love me and ignore him
Being pathetic using anything he can to try to hurt me and force control over me -
20th September 2019 at 11:36 am #88328LisaMain Moderator
Hi Tobfree,
You are so right to say that the mind games can really get you down, even though you know what they are doing! I think this is one of the most common strategies that all perpetrators use to undermine and blame. You can end up thinking you are going mad and feeling so low. It sounds like you are coming up with your own answers, ignore his games and stay positive! Surround yourself with good people who respect and love you, do nice things which you enjoy, and keep reading and posting on the forum. We are all here for you.
Best Wishes
Lisa
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21st September 2019 at 7:31 pm #88429TobfreeParticipant
Thanks for support
Hes playing mr nice guy now and mr supportive
Yet i know this to is an act now
To just get what he wants and to try n have control over me
To fool me love bomb me
All part of trauma bondingIm just playing along with him partly because im to exhausted to fight with him mentally or emotionally
And i am also just playing along to booster his ego and still plan my escape
And i am trying to protect myself tooFeel really low sometimes
N other times feel really depressed and other times i feel more me more positive and strong because i am on to him and trying to take one day at a time
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