Facing up to it. Help Creating (detail removed by moderator)

[Jaydezea]

Hi. I’m new here. I fled from my abusive husband (detail removed by moderator) years ago after (detail removed by moderator) years of living with him and I’m finally ready to face up to what he did, I think. We have a child together so it’s quite complicated because he is been allowed supervised contact with him so I’m stuck been civil to the family but I really need to deal with it all. I’ve been advised to take out a forced marriage protection order and start a criminal case against him but have no idea where to start. It’s a (detail removed by moderator) year story that actually starts with his friend. This friend of his has just got sentenced to (detail removed by moderator) years in prison for a very similar experience I had with him. It took (detail removed by moderator) years for the girl to get that conviction so I’m scared it will all be for nothing but hopeful that if she was believed then they will help me.
Sorry it’s long but I want to know how do I report this? Do I just go into a station, what would I say? I’m scared they will think I’m wasting there time since I’m already away from him. Do I ring the non emergency? Can I write a statement about it before I go or does it all need to be raw when I tell them. I don’t want to do anything that could jeopardise my case if they deem I even have one. I tried ringing my local women’s aid but froze couldn’t say anything it felt so painful to even try tell someone so I’m worried I won’t get them everything they need to do anything. Please someone tell me it will be okay. I know it won’t be easy but I feel I need to do this for myself to be able to heal and be there for my children

[Iwantmeback]

Hi Jaydezea, just wanted to welcome you to the forum. I can’t advise you on this but wanted to acknowledge you taking that leap of faith and posting on here.
IWMB 💕💕

[EbonyRaven]

Hi, perhaps you should write down a few bullet points about what you need to do, and then phone the helpline. It may help you to have it in front of you.

[Lisa]

Hi Jaydezea

Welcome to the forum. I understand it can be difficult to explain over the phone such an emotional subject, you could ask your local domestic abuse service for an appointment so you can discuss face to face if that is easier.

I agree with EbonyRaven that writing a couple of questions down may help to start a conversation about it over the phone, you may want to call a charity called Karma Nirvana who are specialists in forced marriage, their number is 0800 5999 247 this helpline is open Mon-Fri 9-5

You can also contact the Forced Marriage Unit within the police for advice and information about reporting, their number is 0207 008 0151, you can also email them if that is easier, the email address is in this link.

Take care and keep posting

Lisa

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