Family know and I feel worse

[Better-days]

Close friends and family members have found out he had been messaging a girl. I ofcourse do not care about this as I would love it if he left I have zero love for him but trapped in this relationship through fear. Iv had no option but to tell them that I don’t care as I want to leave and my reasons why. I feel worse than ever my anxiety is through the roof I’m terrified and worried now my family can’t seem to try and be the same with him and he will know it will make things worse for me if they r not the same when they are around him but i don’t think they realise what it’s like. Like what these men are like. Iv told them I will leave after Xmas and now I don’t know what I will do if I can’t as I know they want me out. I’m not coping just now at all.

[swanlake]

I wonder if it’s your anxiety making you feel this way.
Do your family have much contact with him? You might read things into their behaviour that are not there because of anxiety.
My own family do not take my abuse seriously. I worry that they are gullible enough to give away my location to my abuser, who will pretend that they really need to know my address.
Anxiety amplifies every little fear so I hope that it’s just that and things don’t get worse for you.

[Better-days]

Thank you for you reply they don’t have too much contact with him I’m very close to them so it’s very hard.

[Happybelle]

Understand what you are saying.
My family have been suspicious of my abuser and have been quietly gunning for him for a long time. If they knew the real truth all hell would break loose…. I suspect my incredible mother would turn up with a spade ready to stick him in the garden!!
I expect they are worried for you and will likely back you up. People can often surprise you in many unexpected ways.
I hope you can stick to your plan for after Xmas…. I’m sure there will be a number of us with similar plans so you’re not on your own x

[Better-days]

I know what u mean as although iv had to open up about some stuff they don’t know everything I could write a book about what he’s put me through. And I love what u said about ur mum. It made me laugh 😂 wish u could send her my way. It’s a relief to know I’m not alone tho I wouldn’t wish this on anyone it’s so so sad how many of us are in a herrendous situation xx

[Happybelle]

It is sad isn’t it. I never went to go through this again. Glad made you laugh 😂 mums the definition of “may she be small she is fierce”!!

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