Fed up

[Dahlia23]

It’s so lonely sometimes . I feel like I can’t just look forward to things like other people do . We have a big family event happening in the coming months and it should be a lovely occasion .all my family/friends are really looking forward to it , choosing their outfits etc but I just can’t get excited . I can’t because he’ll probably be in a sulk before we go and make it miserable . He’ll make it an issue if I spend money on my hair / new clothes for it and make out like I’m being selfish (moneys a bit tight atm but I want to look presentable.) I just feel so sad . I wish I had a happy life . This is just a tiny thing , there’s many issues.

[minimeerkat]

they are usually at their worst whenever it comes to celebrations of any kind – they will behave in ways that completely & utterly ruin any chance of enjoyment you could have. so its understandable how sad this is making you feel (big hug from me)
others may be in a position to buy new stuff but if there arent the pennies to spend on yourself, you can still look good with hopefully some of the things you already have? maybe the most important thing is actually turning up & showing these family members just how much you love & care about them
try if you can to ignore any of the expected ‘temper tantrums’ & tell yourself you are going to enjoy this event with your family regardless – because theres absolutely no reason why you shouldnt at all
thinking of you x

[Butterfly-A]

Hi Dahlia123,

I reason with you post so much.
I too have a big family event coming up, and it should be an opportunity to spend time together and enjoy the company of others.
But the same as you, I already know I will get so much back lash from wanting to spend any money on myself for it, equally he has already told me I am not allowed to wear makeup on the day.

It’s really draining.

I feel like I can’t think about anything anymore because I am so tired by it all.

I do hope you get to enjoy the event as you should be able to,

BA x

[Dahlia23]

Minimeerkat thank you so much for your reply ! I will make the most of the day and ignore the expected strops leading up to it the best I can x

[Dahlia23]

B.A I’m so sorry you’re going through this too it’s just horrible . Why are they like this I wonder ? I just don’t understand it 🙁 I appreciate your message, just someone understanding this craziness makes me feel somewhat better but also makes me so sad . It’s like they can’t stand us enjoying ourselves or being happy in anyway . Or looking good ! It’s so, so tiring ..

[Better-days]

Oh this post. I dread every family event as he actually is worse around my family like tries to act smart and can be extremely cheeky to me. Inside the home I argue back but I don’t infront of my family incase he kicks off. I have booked an expensive holiday this year with all my family there’s loads of us going a special occasion. I couldn’t say I can’t go. I now actually feel I can’t go it’s making me ill thinking about it while everyone else can’t wait. It’s just horrible how someone can do this to you. I hope u r ok x*x

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