Hi Better Days,
You will have days when you feel low, when you get flashbacks that hit you like a ton of bricks.
I recall my ex loudly telling friends at a BBQ that he could ‘dance on ( my son’s ) grave’ when he was about 5 years old, because he was being a bit noisy.
These things haunt us, but as another lady on this forum told me, another day you will feel strong enough to laugh at his ridiculousness.
I think we go through the whole range of emotions from day to day, week to week, as we slowly heal and recover.
I rang the Samaritans last night, as I felt quite low, and a lovely man was on the other end of the phone. He told me not everyone is like my ex, that there are good people out there.
I think we sacrificed so much of our precious life on men who didn’t deserve our love. We settled for second best.