Feeling alone and stressed

[Sunsetluv]

Hi everyone,

This is the third time I have posted really to let out how I’m feeling. Recently my partner and I have been arguing due to my mental health the housework has taken a back step. The other day we had an argument because he accused me of something I didn’t do. He then started to through a towel on the floor that was lying on the side and threw my shoes.

He also ran his finger through an item I hadn’t dusted in a while and was saying look at the state of this place. This reminds me of when he told me his (detail removed by Moderator) got mad at his (detail removed by Moderator) for not ironing properly.

He doesn’t clean, cook or tidy up. As he works for himself and says he’s too tired. He has never done this for himself he’s always had his (detail removed by Moderator) do it for him previously. The fact he ran his fingers through things to show the dust really upset me it’s like I have to do everything work (detail removed by Moderator) and keep the house in order.

Thanks for reading

Sunsetluv  x

 

[SeaView21]

I could have wrote this myself…
My partner does this all the time.. most of the time I try and keep the house clean enough but..

(detail removed by Moderator) my partner came in and went on a full on moaning spree – calling me all kinds of names – throwing things into the front garden because the house isn’t tidy.

I feel like they want us to be perfect – do everything but we’re tired too! Why don’t they get it?

Also.. and my main point here is having mental health problems is draining – sometimes you just can’t get out of bed. I use the last bit of energy I have doing things that have to be done. The housework is my last priority.

sending love! X

 

[Sunsetluv]

Thank you so much for messaging. It’s comforting in a way to know you’re not alone. It’s also mind blowing to think there are other men that actually do this.

I get no help with the housework, he doesn’t see my job as me working as I work in an office. So he thinks I can cook, clean, tidy and do everything after working all week.

I wish he could feel how he makes me feel for one day then he would realise his actions and words are wrong.

I always wonder what happened in his house hold as a child for him to act this way.

love Sunsetluv x

[snowgirl]

My husband was the same, thankfully he’s moved out now, yes sometimes I let things get on top of me and I wouldn’t have dinner ready by the time he got back etc. He used to say passive aggressive things like ‘I’ll do the washing’ being angry that I had been at home a lot and should have done it. Truth be told, I was suffering from very severe depression, feeling very lonely in the relationship, with him taking no responsibility. Weirdly, since he left, I am on top of the housework most days. Like you said, they expect you to be perfect, whenever I asked him to put the washing in the drawers I was met with nastiness, he would begrudgingly do it.

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