This topic contains 4 replies, has 4 voices, and was last updated by  Doris 7 months, 3 weeks ago.

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  • #75047

    Today I feel really low.
    It’s still early days and I managed to summon the will power to leave but I’m starting to doubt myself.
    I feel very alone in a new area with no friends and no job. I am missing my ex but I have managed to remain no contact.
    I unblocked my phone today but blocked it again now.
    Why am I feeling like this? I know I’ve made the right decision but at my age things seem harder to bounce back from.
    I’ve been applying for jobs but no response. I’m worried about never getting a job again.🙀
    I’m trying to stay positive but all I want is a hug from the man I thought loved me – the man in the mask.

  • #75056

    Your doing well,small steps I know exactly how it is
    But you know what you have done it!
    If I had any alternative but to share my home with him I would be gone in
    a heartbeat,we live separate lives he has a lock on the living room
    door and I have a lock on the bedroom door,this has been like this for (detail removed by moderator) I’ve tried so hard to deal with this I can’t go anywhere else until I can start divorce he’s hold the marriage certificate I loath he’s still
    controlling my life but there is no going back no matter what
    Don’t be tempted stay strong you have opened a new door go through Iam
    right behind you!

  • #75060

    Thank you Freshwaterlilly. Reading your message has brought a smile to my face and made me feel better. It must be hard to put up with those living arrangements but you sound strong so keep going. You can get another marriage certificate from the registry office in the area you were married incase he doesn’t release it to you. It’s so alien to me how anyone could get satisfaction from controlling another person and making their life hell, let alone a person that they are supposed to love. I hope that things work out for you with living arrangements. We will both have to keep positive and stay strong. Things often work out well in the end. I’m thinking of you.

  • #75061

    Freshwaterlilly, you can apply for a copy marriage certificate easily. Don’t let this stop you from moving forward x

  • #75068

    I brought a copy of my marriage certificate online very easily. Of course, they send it by post so if your address is not secure, get the certificate sent to a trusted friend/relative. Go to the General Register Office (GRO) and I think they cost £11 so don’t pay more on a company site.

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