Feeling trapped.

[Acousticflower]

Hi everyone, first time posting here and I’m so glad I found this page.

ill try to keep it short… myself and my partner have been together (detail removed by moderator) we have a house together and a little boy. Our relationship for a while now has been rocky, i feel I have changed into a completely different person that I don’t want to be since being with him. I feel very isolated. I have no friends and have quite distant from my family. My partner isn’t a huge fan of my family and to stop him going on at me seeing my family I just stop spending as much time with them as I’d like to. So I feel like I have no one to talk to or no one I can be really open with about anything. There is a lot more to it really.. but I just feel generally drained and negative around him, the atmosphere in the house just changes when he is home.  I feel like the respect between us in good and in short I just don’t feel like I’m being treated the way I should be.  Since having my little boy I am so focused on just being happy and a good role model for him and I feel that me being on my own will make me the happier positive mum I keep wanting to be!

I have voiced this to my partner for a good while now and he just doesn’t seem to want to listen, his famous saying is “oh it’s time of the month again” (detail removed by moderator). I have stated to him that I feel a break will do us good however he isn’t willing to leave our family home and I have no where to go with my baby so we end up just being in the same position stuck in the same house together carrying on. I feel so numb and drained with all this, I feel trapped and as though I just have to stay in this.

[Lisa]

Hi,

Thank you for your post and welcome to the forum. I’m sorry to hear about your situation. What you described sounds really isolating and it must feel like he is undermining your feelings and not addressing the impact this is having on you.

Part of domestic abuse can be cutting away at your support network, chipping away at your self esteem. You deserve to be with people who make you feel good about yourself.

You may want to contact your local domestic abuse service for more support with your situation. Its completely your decision what you do next.

Best Wishes

Lisa

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