This topic contains 8 replies, has 7 voices, and was last updated by  starqueen 7 months, 2 weeks ago.

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  • #94240

    So I CAN cook Christmas dinner and I CAN make a wonderful christmas for us without him. No atmosphere, no shouting. Just peace and love. Feel like i can breathe for the first time in years and can see the kids relaxing day by day .

  • #94242

    Well done. It will only get better x happy Xmas

  • #94248

    Thanks Kip. You too xx

  • #94257

    Well done, enjoy the feeling 💕

  • #94260

    It’s great isnt it – just how it should be – we dread it coming and think it will be awful without him for a long time, then when it comes its as you say – light, relaxed, the best kind of day. Good to read WTG – onwards! x

  • #94263
     lover of no contact 

    Well done. So delighted to hear you and the children don’t have to put up with the tension, walking on egg shells, drama and head-wrecking craziness when having an abuser in our midst. It’s the hardest thing ever (IMO) to get out of a cycle of abuse with an abuser so we’ll done for achieving this:)

  • #94432

    Thanks xx

  • #97398

    Sounds like a great Christmas 🙂
    Christmas with no abuse, is the best.
    Last Christmas, I ignored my abusers. I ignored friends linked to my other abuser too because of trauma bonding issues similar to Stockholm syndrome. I said to myself, 2020 is the year for a fresh new beginning. I’m talking more on Women’s Aid and in other support groups. I’m sorting out my emotional health.

    Take care xx

  • #97626

    Last Christmas was a really positive change for me too. I felt ambivalent about Christmas for a good few years because although I’d see my best friend and a family member I loved a lot, I’d feel like I was walking on eggshells with another, watching what I said and how I reacted to them. Last year I went no contact and decided to do what I wanted for Christmas. It was wonderful, although sad in some ways because my loved family member wasn’t there to enjoy it with me. Being able to do what felt right for me with nobody to tell me I’m wrong, guilt trip me or start an argument with me was magic though.

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