Had to flee

[Losingbattle]

So a massive argument happened. He abused me verbally via text basically said he is no longer leaving. I can’t force him out because hes on the tenancy. I was so scared I packed a bag in the night and left the following morning with the kids. I rang the police but still waiting to see what they can do. He keeps abusing me via text demanding I take the kids back. If I can’t get him out, can I get a police escort to get the rest of my stuff? I’m so stressed

[KIP.]

Yes you can get the police to go with you but you can still get an occupation order to have him removed from the home. There are new domestic abuse powers so ask the police if they can remove him and let you and the children return until you get a court order. If you feel it’s safe to do so. Show the police the text messages and tell them everything.

[KIP.]

Ring the national domestic abuse helpline and contact your local women’s aid too.

[Nowheretoturn20]

Oh hun this is amazing! You’ve left and had the guts to do it!
My fear is the abusive texts! I get it whenever we have an argument! Xx

[KIP.]

You change your number when you leave and use a third party. You don’t have to accept abusive texts at all. He doesn’t get your new number x

[Losingbattle]

Hes demanding I go back with the kids. I’m not backing down. Hes threatened to take the kids before so I don’t trust him. I’m applying for a residence order but I’m worried about what could happen while I wait for it. I’m leaving them off of school this last week cos I’m scared he’ll go get them. At the same time I feel bad not allowing him to see them

[hop]

Do not feel bad!! You’ve done an amazing thing you need to stick to it. You’re so brave. Can’t you block his number to stop the texts? You know what he thinks you don’t need to keep seeing it. Well done x

[Lisa]

Hi Losingbattle,

You have been so strong and I wanted to reassure you that you have done the right thing, I hope you are somewhere safe.

Yes the police should be able to help you get your belongings. It definitely sounds like the safest thing to keep the children off school, and blocking him or changing your phone number are really good suggestions.

Please keep posting, we are all here for you.

Lisa

[KIP.]

You’re protecting them by keeping them away from him. He’s already told you he will grab them and you won’t be able to get them back without court intervention until you have something legal in place. Once you’re in a stronger position you can talk with women’s aid about what access and where he should have and how you get them back if he won’t return them. Do not trust him. He’s telling you he will steal your children. He threatening you. Believe him. He will also use the kids and access to the kids to continue his abuse of them via you. Block his number and change yours. Use a third party or preferably a solicitor for communication x

[Losingbattle]

Well I put my form in to the court to get the order put into place. I’ve said it’s one to be rushed due to the nature. So hopefully I can get it sorted sooner rather than later

[HopeLifeJoy]

How brave well done! Keep pushing them, ask your support worker to contact them. Victim Support can help you too to activate and keep it urgent.

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