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      Hopingforpeace
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      Just trying to stay calm but got this feeling of fear! For some reason I’ve had disturbing dreams about the ex recently and feel like it’s triggering me but I’m in a way holding it off, not letting my mind open up to it. Then something small triggered me and I was right back there. Then I had a call to say I could start counselling with the Rape and Sexual Abuse centre and now I’m feeling like scared and worried and not good about myself and I don’t know I’m struggling to find the words to describe how I feel. I’ve waited months for the counselling. I really don’t want to do it but know I need to. Does anyone know what to expect from the first session? Thank you.

    • #73457
      KIP.
      Participant

      Please please don’t worry. You can sit and say nothing, you can leave after five minutes. It’s all about you and going at your pace but please go to the appointment. I was a nervous wreck and lots of triggers and sleepless nights in the run up to it but it was just my imagination running wild. The reality was a really good counsellor who let me say what was on my mind. It’s natural to be nervous the first time but hopefully she will give you coping strategies to help you move forwards. You won’t ever be forced to talk about stuff you’re not ready for. Keep some paper next to you and write down anything that comes into your mind. You can even talk about how you felt in the run up to the appointment. Don’t put pressure on yourself, it will be okay x

    • #73458
      maddog
      Participant

      I’m coming out the other end of Rape Crisis counselling. I’ve found it really, really helpful. Finally the core of my misery has been unfolding, which is a huge relief. The first session will be very straightforward. I think they are trained in trauma. It seems very specialist. I’ve had loads of counselling and clinical psychologists in my time. This was one of the most useful things. You will have your hand held throughout.

    • #73505
      Hopingforpeace
      Participant

      Thank you maddog and KIP, that’s really helpful to hear. I’m trying not to worry about it but so hard. I think its the enormity of what I’m about to do with the counselling that’s getting to me and not having anyone to talk to about it. I haven’t told anyone that I’m about to start it and very few people know what happened to me. Out of those who do I can’t talk to them about it for one reason or another. So glad we have this forum.

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