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    • #20600
      Falling Skys

      So excited I can’t sleep.

      My abuser has gone away for a few days.

      Only localy but because of alcohol chances are he won’t be coming back to check on what I’m up to.

      I wasn’t told but noticed things missing so left a light on and it’s not been switched off so I know for sure now.

      So no getting out of the house at silly o’clock. I will have my breakfast at home for the first time in years.

      Also going to have major cook up as I won’t spend to much time in the kitchen as that’s a hot spot and moving some of my things about as that’s another thing that will send him over the edge.

      Omg taste of things to come.

    • #20601

      Thats great! When I qas in my abusive relationship I loved it when he wasnt around. I had my own space and I felt so relaxed 🙂 is there anyway you coukd use this time to get out if the relationship for good whike you have the chance? Maybe phone WA up? I feel like I have spent a large part of my life getting out of abusive relationships. My mum had to flee really bad domestic abuse and we ended up in a refuge then I married a man who regulary smashed my house and took drugs. I know leaving can often seem more scary than staying but it is still very possible. Were all here for you if and when you are ready to make that step xx

    • #20607
      Falling Skys

      Hi freedom

      Sadly I can’t go because we own our house and without his permission I am libel to half the biĺls. Sickening but legal of we rented I could have been long gone. I have just taken another large stop in price so I can be free.

      I didn’t realise that the law was such an a*s.

      So all i can do is make the most of these times. I got low last month becuase he wouldn’t let me go.

      But I’m focusing on apart from having to sleep here I can do whst I like.

      Just have to be careful that if hes drinking or in a bad mood I get into my safe room and always have my phone with me.

    • #20610

      Thats really great news Falling Skys. I would say savor each & every moment, try to relax, feel your happiness and freedom. The joy of living alone for me cannot be beat. Let us know how you get along! XXXXX

    • #20613

      Hi there, I lived like you did for four weeks before he assaulted me. What it did to my mental health took a long time to heal. I truely worry for your safety. Do you really think your abuser will make things easy with the sale of the house. And as the days draw near to when he finally realises you are going, I truely think he will hurt you badly. I thought I had a safe room but it was useless. When he wanted to get in, he got in. I hope you can relax for the next couple of days but I doubt it. The constant worry is a drain on your well being. Stay safe x

    • #20632

      To Be Free,

      My ex left and didn’t pay the bills, and no utilities company is chasing him.

    • #20633

      Dear falling sky’s, have you ever sought any legal advice over your part of the house? This might help you… -the-relationship -ends/overveiw

    • #20663
      Falling Skys

      Hi all thank you for your support l and concerns.

      It was my lawer that said he can get the money from my side of the money when then house sales. The estate agent gives me 24 hours notice of a viewing so I can clean his mess. His idea of cleaning is Hoover and air freshener.

      I had a lovely morning before work I had a cup of tea instead of rushing out so no confrontation. This evening i had a mega cook up freezer full of meals and sauces. Done some deep cleaning lol just doing normal thing is such fun.

    • #20679

      Yes, its great isn’t it Falling Skys XXXXX

    • #20714
      Falling Skys

      Yes it is HA, doing things when you want with out consequences, its time when he’s not here that I realise how much he is still a cloud of doom over me. I didn’t know how much he was still controlling me.

      But it gives me a taste of whats to come and I know it will be worth it in the end.

      FS xx

    • #20715

      I am having a simple morning, just put the washing out and doing housework, but its heaven!!!! My life has come together since I got rid of him and in fact put all men on the back burner. I feel so enthusiastic and excicted for my future. I’m glad your doing well too FS XXXXX

    • #20753
      Falling Skys

      While I was out some ones been in to check what I have been up to sad really.

      Sorted out my bedroom, had a lovely soak in the bath now just chilling. Bought some new things for my rooms but not sure if I should put them out know or wait to when I have a viewing.

      Last night on my own want to make the most of it. Though the dread of him coming back is starting to ick in.

    • #20796
      Falling Skys

      Enjoying my last few hours, cooked breakfast and chilling before going out with friends.

      Felt a little lost last night, but I think thats more apprehension of him coming back.

      Its lovely to have a clean house.


    • #20798

      At least you have had a taster and you know that a different, better way to feel is possible. X*X

    • #20823
      Falling Skys

      Reality is back in the house he’s home think he has a hearing issue the tv on so loud….. ;).

      I do know that things will get better and I will live the life I deserve 🙂

      Positive is they are going away next month 🙂 lol they don’t know I know even better they will be to far away to check on me 🙂

    • #20826

      Who is going away FS, your husband & ????

    • #20831
      Falling Skys

      our son he has turn him into an abuse. Well I think his mind games have addled his brain, but there is nothing I can do about it.

      FS x

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