Health of child

[Daff]

On (detail removed by Moderator), we got results from doctors. I have been asking for years for them to test but have had the same answer of each doctor that it’s the child’s age, until I spoke to a nurse. At the moment there is no contact with the father but I’m unsure if I have to tell him or not. Contact could change in the near future. I feel so much better now there isnt contact and feel lost about what to do. Its been a bad day everything is getting on top of me and I don’t know what to do for the best. Any advice welcome, I should also say it isn’t life threatening but could affect the life they have in the future

[Living Warrior]

hi lovely,
i know this situation well. its a tough one. you feel bad for not informing him, but if there is no contact currently, if you get in touch that may start the contact issue again. (i will take a stab and say this wouldnt be a good thing)
my advice would be to not say anything atm.
Im not sure if you have court interventions or its just ur preference at no contact atm, but i dont see a benefit to reaching out.

if contact was to change, and he was to have contact then obviously he would need to know if he is to spend time with the child.
if contact was granted through courts etc then telling the courts about the change and letting them discuss contact etc may be beneficial.
in either case of contact i wouldnt make the notification personally i would get court or solicitor to write out a letter, or photocopy any letter and reports given to you by docs, blanking out your personal information. or something like that.

if you would like further advice one to one i am happy to help. Pm me
I hope this as helped for now.

[Daff]

Hi thanks for the reply, I think I’m not going to say anything.its been so much calmer not having contact, trying to concentrate on me and the kids but second guessing things. It’s just nice to have a little advice from someone who understands

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