Hello I’m new to the forum

[Thesoundofrain]

Hi
I’m new here and I am finding my way around I will probably say too much I’ve noticed a lot that gets deleted so not to identify so hopefully I will learn 🙏… I will probably be around the over 50s boards – I’ve read some of the posts and can see myself in quite a few – especially the gaslighting – psychological- narc type posts … yes my head is cabbaged but I’m planning a way out but I am fearful … been with him a long long time …

[Eggshells]

Hi Thesoundofrain,

Welcome to the forum. I’m sorry that you need to be here but pleased that you have found your way here.

It’s a really supportive site with so many women who will understand what you are going through and be there to support you.

It can sometimes be a little nerve racking when you make your first post but it’s such a positive step to take.

The moderator is really good at taking identifying information out but you’ll soon get a good idea of how you can tell your story without identifying yourself. xx

[Freedom @]

Hi @thesoundof rain. I just wanted to say hello. I don’t have much advice really but I’m sure you will find some great support here x

[Thesoundofrain]

Thank you for the welcome 🙏- my eyes aren’t great and i find the print a bit feint on this site so please excuse any spelling mistakes🤓- I also forget things easily , so just like now I’m replying to a post and forget what it said – I’ll be honest I’ve found this disconcerting and it is like my brain is constantly in a ‘burn’ mode – like burn all information and keep on alert – it’s a behaviour that is to keep me mentally prepped I suppose – I’ll stop now and re read

[gettingtired]

Hey, welcome to the forum, I’m sure you will find it really useful and it’a great you already have it in your mind that you’re wanting to leave. It’s a very scary thought (I haven’t left yet) especially when you’ve been with them for so long so everyone here will sympathise with you.
All I can say is as sad as it is that we are all here on this forum, it really does help just knowing others understand or have been/are going through similar experiences.
There’s a good book list post somewhere on the forum if you’re wanting to learn more about abuse. Why does he do that? by Lundy Bancroft is a huge eye opener. I’ve heard it’s available to download online for free too.
Take care and keep posting xx

[Thesoundofrain]

Hi I’m trying to work out how to reply to one person – you know like direct my response to the one person who has posted – my replies are going to look higglety pigglety… I have left him in the past , but after having my daughters I found it harder and to be honest back then I’d never heard of n**********c behaviour and gas lighting- I just knew he had a miserable hold over me . Unfortunately staying for the kids has backfired on me … I’m going to write about that in another post

[Anonymous]

Hello thesoundofrain

I’m new on here today too so I thought I’d say hello 🙂

I think it’s positive that you’ve found your way to this forum and that you’re finding common experiences you can relate to – especially if you’re dealing with things like gas lighting. I experienced this too and it made me doubt my situation which stopped me from reaching out so good on you for taking the step of posting on here. Take care x*x

[Palazzo]

hey i m new as well but finally find someone gets me and situation, its so hard to explain to anyone from ”outside” , especially after decades of covering up and pretending all was fine, stay strong, this forum is full of incredible survivors x

[Eggshells]

If you want to send a private message to someone, just click on their username and it should give you the option to message them.

[Thesoundofrain]

Hi
Thanks for the welcome.. I am finding the page itself hard to navigate – and read – the way it looks on my phone and moves off centre – maybe I’ll get used to it …I know to tap on person to pm it’s responding on this bit – when there’s a few responses and you want to reply individually to that person and not at the end – I can see others can do it …🙈- I must be being a bit thick 🥴 ..

[Lisa]

Hi Thesoundofrain

Sorry to hear you are having problems on the forum, you’re not being thick at all, it can take a little bit of time to get used to where everything is.

If you want to reply to a particular comment in a thread of conversation you can click on the “Reply” button above that particular comment and it will take you to a box. Type your reply then click “submit” and your post will appear below their comment.

I hope this helps.

Take care and keep posting,

Lisa

[Thesoundofrain]

Lisa 🤣- god I feel a burk- I was expecting the reply at the bottom .. thanks

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