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Since I was last here, I received some telephone Councelling sessions that I had been awaiting. I had been expecting to be treated for PTSD but I realise now, it was for low mood and anxiety scoring. I realised this after receiving a copy of what was sent to my GP. I don’t know why I’m surprised? but at least I understand, see now, that I held so much in and felt so angry inside sometimes. Although I didn’t see it before. Particularly, that others who didn’t understand what I was going through personally, I pushed away. Why? I didn’t understand, but I didn’t have much support, nothing really, outside of some here. The PTSD remains unaddressed completely, I’m guessing due to time limited Councelling sessions? And having so much to deal with? The opinion expressed by my councillor. Anyone here, understand where I’m at? got any ideas? I know it sounds stupid, but I’m not big on reading books and books. Thanks for your helpđ
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Hi Hazydayz,
Are you in a position to access private counselling? It might be an idea to have a look at the counselling directory website where you can filter counsellors and therapists in terms of their specialisms or experience.
Many therapists offer discounts for individuals with low income, students and frontline workers etc. so if you find someone who could be suitable this might be something to discuss.
Your local domestic abuse service might be able to direct you to local counselling services too?
Counselling on the NHS is often very general and based on deadlines due to time pressures and long wait lists. It can be very frustrating for those needing more in-depth support.
Take care and keep posting,
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hello, i completely understand where you are coming from. i was told i had untreated PTSD years ago, after i had my son (he has disabilities) i was taking antidepressants, due to feeling low and having so much informtaion to process with my sons condition, all alone seperated from family, due to moving to be with my now ex. When i left my ex after the abuse came out, i tried to access counciling again, to be thrown onto a waiting list, i am still waiting.
But tbh i dont feel like i need it as much now, i attended power to change programme through womens aid, it helped me sort out my own demons about the relationship and blaming myself for everything as my ex and his family did.i researched ways to cope, anxiety aids and things, i spoke to my GP, and got a support group to talk about the concerns with my son, all in all i found me again. i now make sure i do something that is for me and only me, whether it be taking the dog for a walk, diamond painting or dancing round the kitchen to music. for even just 10 minutes a day i have me time.
Womens aid sessions really helped because i felt like that was the one place i wasnt judged, people listened without waiting to talk… i would definitely recommend it.
i will still do the councilling when offered but i found ways to cope that work in the mean time.. im off my meds have been for over a year, and i find different ways to cope with stressful events like court dates and stuff, i also know the warning signs of when things are getting too much, and find a way to work through that.the main thing i found is that “everyone has bad days, no one is perfect!” no matter what they try and show on social media đ so think about you. take one step at a time, and realise that every day is a day further from where you were and a day closer to where you want to be đ
good luck in your journey. i hope that helps x*x -
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Hi Rosemary. Your welcome. I hope it helped you? I want to just add, ptsd is a condition that has affected my whole life, from
early childhood throughout my adult years and literally
up to my discovering that I was affected by it just over a year ago. I still am, I need specific Councelling to deal with it. Left unaddressed for so long, it has, consequently impacted on my life and the lives of my family too, sadly. I always thought there was something wrong? But the discovery was made by clinical assesment whilst waiting for Councelling. It was a shock and a relief to realise that’s what had been and was still affecting my life in part. I came from a background where I just struggled on. Never knowing what I know now. Of course, it’s part of the reason I found myself in the abusive situations that have scarred my life also, I guess? The nightmare of that still continues. More recently, an acceptance of being in an abusive marriage led me here. Sharing this with you, I hope it helps you to understand a little more about PTSD and how it can affect lives. I’ve only scratched the surface in my own relating it here but it affects in many ways and in many lives. People often don’t realise. And those affected, may not realise that they are affected. I do hope that your knowing now what PTSD is about is helpful to you. If you suffer from it maybe? Finally, I think every woman in here may be scarred by trauma sadly and I just wish it wasn’t so. Hazydayz x
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Sorry for late reply Hazydayz as I’ve only just logged in
To our survivors form . Thank you for explaining to me about PSTD . I am not sure If I have this but sense my childhood till now my whole life has
Affected me in different ways .I was in an abusive violent marriage also I got raped I’ve had no break of abusive seeing violence seeing people aggressive around me my whole life has been so difficult for me and I get scared even with my partner he is abusive aggressive and he can be controling as well his behaviour can be so horrible. I’ve been thought truma and it still affects me now . Thank you for explaining to me you have been very helpful.-
Morning Rosemary. I have just found your reply to my message. Please don’t feel you have to apologise for any delay in replying to me, it’s ok, but very polite of you, thankyouđ Many of us here are time restricted arn’t we, due to having to be careful. I want to say, I’m sorry to read that you are in a difficult situation too. I understand what it feels like. I hope your finding my reply makes you feel less alone and your reading it when you feel safely able to. Be reassured, your not alone in this. Thankyou for sharing with me your life experience, I wish it hadn’t been or wasn’t that way for you. I do feel from what you said, hearing the alarm bells ringing in me from my gut reaction, the trauma you mention your suffering, could very possibly be indicative of PTSD symptoms. Alongside the fear and anxiety your partner causes in you. You describe a life that cannot fail to be seriously affected Rosemary, I can only imagine the horrors of what you have seen regarding such violence. Controlling and abusive partners, I know that feeling very well too. Finding a way out of the cycles of misery is what matters, but it feels a mammoth task, sometimes feels like, is it possible? I do though, wish you many happy days, always be safe! Hazydayz x
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