Help?

[Jelly bean]

Can anyone tell me if I have to tell my ex my address? We have children and I understand he obviously has rights, but surely I have a right not to live in fear? The drop offs and pick ups are done permanently through a 3rd party and that won’t change. I’m still living in the same area, just moved to a different part of the estate.

[KIP.]

I wouldn’t tell him anything. Keep yourself safe and well away from him. He has contact through a third party if he needs to. That should be enough. From a legal stand point, I’ve never had to look into it but if he’s abused you I think the court would totally understand. Rights from women have a free helpline or most solicitors will give you free initial advice X trouble is that the kids might tell him anyway 👿

[Jelly bean]

I haven’t as yet said anything, but as you just guessed, my eldest has already mentioned to him about a new house. Although both children are very young and not at an age where they know their address yet. We have already been to court in the past so I’ve tried to contact my solicitor but I’ve heard nothing back so far. I’m now just worrying about not answering him, I hate how I’m still scared to say things I know he won’t like or scared to not reply to him x

[Shelly123]

Hi Jelly bean, i would not tell him your address and if the pick ups/drop offs are through a third party there is no need for him to know your address. You have a right to feel safe in your own home and not worry that he may turn up at any point. X

[Ayanna]

No, you do not have to tell him. You have reasons to keep your address a secret. Please defend these reasons and ensure he will not find out where you live.

[KIP.]

Jellybean, switch your phone off. Run a nice bath and enjoy the peace and quiet. You do not have to answer to him anymore. The anxiety is just triggers from the abuse in the past X

[Jelly bean]

I hope you’re all right. If I’ve learnt anything during the last year it’s that the legal world is very different than I realised. I’ve been forced to do a lot of things I can’t stand and decisions that have been made have left the door open for him to continue to ruin my life. The last thing I need is the fear of him knowing where I live. Me and the girls have had a really nice few days away and one word from him and it ruins it all for me. I have no idea how to not let him affect me so much.

You’re right kip. I don’t have to answer to him any more. So I’ve just ignored it. For now until I’m told where I stand legally I suppose! X

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