This topic contains 6 replies, has 5 voices, and was last updated by  Anonymous 1 month, 3 weeks ago.

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  • #97351

    I’ve been ignoring my abuser today, he is now targeting another family member. This abuser is mad.

  • #97354

    He will be doing that to get your attention. Grey rock is really for those who have left a relationship. To ignore attempts at contact and to ignore texts and flying monkeys. Living with an abuser and ignoring them may well antagonise them into hurting you for a reaction. Please be very careful. Are you working on a safe exit plan?

    • #97364

      I’m planning on talking to a counsellor about this.

  • #97365

    Well done x

  • #97368
     lover of no contact 

    Yes great idea.

  • #97369

    It’s been a month I got rid he’s after the police telling him to leave me alone he’s not listening he called to mine early hours I ignored now today he’s getting his mate to message me saying he’s worried about him he’s sucidle….. I’ve then one that’s been cheated on yet he’s making me feel sorry for him . This is the 3rd time he’s cheated . So it was the last time I was prepared to put up with it so I walked but now I have this?

  • #97384

    The suicidal threat they use is disgusting and in the majority of cases a tactic. It is awful that they use this.
    If his friend genuinely thought he was going to do something to harm himself or kill him self why is he contacting you and not the ambulance or his family. It sounds easier said then done but you txt his friend back and tell him that if he thinks that is true then he needs to phone the ambulance services for him. I don’t know if you have a great relationship with his parents or his family maybe you could txt them saying his friend had contacted you with concerns maybe one of them could go and check on him as you can’t be that support system for him any more due to his behaviour.

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