In touch again saying he wants to be with me forever etc trying to make me feel bad in a way saying he already can’t get safe access to his son and his parents are not going to be about forever… I told him he were selfish and it were really all focused on the bedroom he’s promised that we will get put more together… he said I were like his ex wife putting words in his mouth…I don’t believe theyl be any change it’s all nonsense nothings changed before…. he knew I’d had a conversation with his ex wife and found him out which he’s never forgive me for he said I were stalling her I wernt…. it were one conversation only that were to confirm I wernt imagining the red flags I saw with him….advice please anyone xx
It really does sound like you candothis! You’re right. I don’t believe you need anyone to advise you on this, you acted to protect yourself in talking with his ex wife and it absolutely confirmed what you’d been turning yourself inside-out over, his abuse.
He’s never forgiven you for that, end of. Just for that alone you can’t stay around someone who speaks like this, its toxic, just making those hollow promises. Easy words, that he can fulfil.
You don’t believe there’ll be any change and knowing this means you face accepting one thing, that you can’t continue with him in any way. He’s just desperately flailing around dealing with the consequences of everything that he brought down upon himself by abusing you and your son.