He’s managed to get away with it

[Feather]

I first reported someone for a violent attack a few months ago. He was arrested and released pending further investigation. He said that he acted in self defence but my attack went on for (Detail removed by Moderator) hours in the early hours of the morning. The police believe me and it went to the CPS. The CPS came back with a decision and said there wasn’t enough evidence to show that he didn’t act in self defence. (Detail removed by Moderator) hours I went through that stuff. I thought I was going to die. Im so disappointed and upset. He works in the (Detail removed by Moderator) and apparently his jobs are going to be informed but that’s that. I’m just so lost.

[maddog]

What a hideous ordeal. It is awful when these vile people seem to get away with it.

It is a really big thing to actually be believed. Really big. It is also really big that the police referred it to the CPS. You have done all the right things and taken all the right steps. Please give yourself a big hug and hold your head high for that.

These perpetrators lie through their teeth. They will say and do anything to make them appear like an innocent victim.

It seems at the beginning as though he’s got away with it. On the face of it maybe. However, he has been arrested, he has been charged. He is now on the police radar. His work is being informed. He may lose his job and if he does something similar to someone else he will be jumped on.

My ex was No Further Actioned. At first I was shocked. When things settled down, I realised that the police had pushed him into moving out of the house, they had warned him about his behaviour. I have been told that other people have reported him to the police. It is a relief not to have to be a witness in court. The day might come.

[Feather]

Thank you. 🙂 The police officer that was dealing with it sounded just as shocked as I am. He was really apologetic. He said that he was letting his work know ASAP and that they will be told that even though there wasn’t enough evidence to say it wasn’t self defence, that it doesn’t mean it didn’t happen. I’m just so angry and upset. There was no evidence of me harming him but they had photos of my injuries. He wasn’t charged just released under investigation.

I’m sorry about your ex. You’re right, it is a good thing about not having to go to court and I don’t have to see him.

[maddog]

I bet you’re upset. The bar for the CPS is very high and things that happen behind closed doors are difficult to prove beyond reasonable doubt. You are absolutely not alone. I hope the police have referred you to an IDVA who can help you get all the support you need. Best wishesx

[fizzylem]

Utterly dreadful to go through, of course you’re upset after what has happened and the months afterwards, but what I’m also hearing is that you stood up for yourself and did everything you could, you spelt it out loud and clear that this behaviour is totally unacceptable, this was the right thing to do and it required courage. It will be very shameful and difficult to deal with at work for him for sure – good – they may even decide to dismiss him. Do what you need to do now to let it go and step forwards with your head held high x

[Borntobefree]

Hi feather
Well done in reporting to the police
Its such a let down when these vile creatures get away with it.
My ex walks free too. Not enough evidence….. Karma will catch up with him.. Big hugs x

[maddog]

When the police came round to let me know the outcome of their investigation they said that it was really important to report even if the perpetrators aren’t charged because they can build a picture. It really wasn’t that long ago that rape within marriage didn’t exist. Hopefully by reporting we are building a safer future for our children. Things will change. It’s just not our time. It maybe doesn’t help to know this. I hope it helps though to know that you have done all the right things and taken all the right steps and the perpetrator is on record.

For me things changed when instead of brushing off my ex’s threats I took them seriously.

[Feather]

Thanks, ladies for your messages. Much appreciated. I’m still feeling a bit rubbish but plodding on. I’ve used the Victims Right to Review scheme so they’re reviewing the decision and letting me know. It’s not going to change anything but I need to know exactly why. He told them it was self defence and the police said that he informed them he had photos of his “injuries” and when they took his phone they didn’t find any photos at all. They had all my photos. I don’t understand why people can just say it’s self defence and then he gets away with it because of it. I was covered in blood and he made me wait until he washed clothing to leave the place he did it etc. I just don’t understand. It’s been going on for (Detail removed by Moderator) months (Detail removed by Moderator)

Sorry you’ve all been in the same position as me. It’s not a nice feeling at all. Wouldn’t wish it on anyone.

[Author]

Posts