Hi TotallyFedUp, This sounds a really miserable situation. I know lots of ladies on this forum have experienced this waiting for the divorce to be finalised. It’s an awful situation to live in.
Get some legal advice on the divorce, finances and your chances of getting him to leave. In a divorce situation, it doesn’t matter that much who actually owns the house. A family home is considered such an important asset that its value can be divided irrespective of who owns it, or contributed to it. Obviously the fact that you have children may change the financial split but only a solicitor can advise you on what that is likely to be. Look for a solicitor who does family law. Some offer the first 30 minutes free in some areas. Have a list of everything ready so you don’t waste any time. You can also try Rights of Women Family Law helpline. They are only open limited hours and it is v hard to get through, but worth persevering as they are very helpful. Good luck with it all.