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I have had another begging me to give him another chance. I said no you are abusive. He then demanded to know what he did
I told him he did the following
Sulk if I didn’t want sex or give me the silent treatment
Kept my credit card and he would give me an allowance if I sucked him off
Took money from my purse
Calling me and if I didn’t answer say when I call you you answer. I don’t care what you are doing
If the kids played up he would say they aren’t my kids mine would be goodToo long a list but when I said it to him, he said well you aren’t exactly easy to live with.
I don’t know what I was expecting him to say but to treat someone you say you love like that, I dread to think how treat people he hates!
I am planning on starting divorce proceedings
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And here we have a classic example of denial by Monopolised Perception. He’s like that because of you!
You have told him some precise information at his request, and instead of looking horrified and dismayed about what you are saying… well, it’s because you’re not easy to live with. His faults are absolutely nothing to do with him.
What you have listed is coercive control, especially withholding YOUR credit card. The reason he is withholding it and giving you an allowance on it is actually a criminal offence. He sounds a nasty man, well done for getting rid.
Roll on the divorce, so many grounds for unreasonable behaviour.
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Thank you
Yes he is a very nasty man. 2 mins after he used to get in from work, I knew what mood he was in. That fear, that dread used to be there and if he was in a good mood then brilliant.
Glad I haven’t had to spend any time with him during lockdown. The kids have been mostly good, but like all children nightmare at times.
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I could tell just by the sound of his footsteps what kind of a mood he was in. His response just confirms you’re absolutely doing the right thing in getting out of this relationship. Turning the spotlight on you is classic distraction technique. He’s delusional. When I ended my relationship I gave him a list and told him I didn’t love him anymore and that he had hurt me too much. His response was ‘can we still have sex?’ Pathetic little men totally lacking in empathy or remorse x
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OMG this is sooo typical! Makes me laugh in a very warped way because it’s so not funny. But they are sooo ridiculous and quite transparent. Blah, blah, blah. I don’t even bother anymore to tell someone like this the reasons why. It’s pointless. Bounces off them. They will always transfer/project it right back to you. But people like this can’t or won’t smell themselves. So disgusting his reply, KIP. Gag! Is there another planet they can all be banished to? Would bet within a year they would have destroyed each other. Eh, not a year, couple of weeks… When we add up the seconds, minutes, hours of our life we spend doing all this, it’s frightening. Getting stingy with our energy and pinching ourselves when aren’t is a good thing!
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