He’s so selfish

[JanuaryBlues]

Recently it has become so blatant how selfish he is. I could understand him doing selfish things against me because he’s annoyed at me generally for distancing myself emotionally. It’s when his selfish actions constantly impact our toddler.

I struggle to keep my mouth shut but I know I have to avoid arguments. I’ve finally admitted to myself I have to leave and in starting to get the support I need, avoiding arguments to avoid escalation is the advice I’ve been getting.

I just can’t stand the selfishness of not thinking how his actions affect our child. I feel like it’s part of a power play sometimes, to see if he can get me to argue. And if I take the bait, he insults me for arguing.

I wish I could give all the recent specifics because it’s ridiculous behaviour!

Writing this is my way of coping at the moment otherwise I feel like I might explode with frustration

[Lisa]

Hello JanuaryBlues,

Thanks for sharing this. It can be difficult to ‘un-see’ the abusive, selfish and manipulative behaviours abusers are capable of once we have started to recognise the extent of it.

I’m glad you have a place to express this and that you have some support in place with things.

Take care and keep posting,
Lisa

[Anonymous]

Hello,

I really feel your pain! I have 2 (detail removed by moderator) and they are already more emotionally intelligent than their dad. What frustrates me even more is that he grew up in a home where there was violence and all he has done is recreated that for his own children.

We have to leave January Blues, we need to break the cycle. I am here if you want to chat on PM.

Take care and big hugs to you and your little one x*x

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