He’s so snappy at me

[Hollapops-]

I’m currently homeless and staying with a man I’ve been dating for (detail removed by moderator). He’s been a friend for over (detail removed by moderator) so I trusted him a lot. I can’t stay here long term as his mum owns the flat and (detail removed by moderator). He knows that I’m struggling to find somewhere else to go and that my previous relationship was abusive. He knows all this but he makes it clear that he hates me being in his space and I’m made to feel like I’m imagining his behaviour around me. For example he is snappy with me and if he can’t hear something I say then he goes ‘Huhh?’ Really loud and in an annoyed way. I said he doesn’t need to be rude but he tells me that I’m wrong and he’s not doing anything wrong. I feel really unsettled around him.

[Marmalade]

Hi, I replied on your other thread as well. As I said there, it sounds like your new partner has not dealt well with your emotional outburst and is finding the new element of you he saw hard to deal with.

From what you say above it sounds as though he really is not keen on you being in his flat any more and your relationship is not happy. If he hates you being in his space as you say, then the relationship is not going to work. Can you make plans to move out? Your current situation sounds impossible and miserable and as it is his family’s property, you will need to be the one to leave. Staying in a toxic breaking down relationship environment will be harmful to your mental health so please look for alternative accommodation.
Good luck.

[Bananaboat]

This doesn’t sound great for you or him. Maybe he’s a great guy and just hates sharing his personal space, or maybe he’s another toxic/abusive person as we often collect friends/relationships that are similar. Eitherway it sounds like you need to get help to find your own space – have you told the council you’re homeless? Do you have any other options for places to stay?

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