Hi, I’m new

[Flitterby]

Hi there.
I’m not sure really what to say, but I’m just hoping that reaching out here is a way in which I can start to feel more like myself.
I ended an abusive relationship in which I was controlled and isolated. She tried to take away things that, for me, are a big part of my identity.
Because of a tenancy agreement I’m unfortunately still living with her although I do luckily have my own room. I’m paying for everything. Although I try to avoid her as much as possible she still snaps or says nasty things, or tries to railroad me into arguing with her.
I am in a new relationship and I’m struggling with my mental health. My new partner is amazing and so supportive but I don’t want him to have to be my only support, especially as I’m feeling so all over the place at the moment.
Anyway, sorry for the long post. I guess I needed to get it out. I hope I can provide support for others along their journeys too.

[Lisa]

Hi Flitterby,

Welcome to the forum. I’m glad that you’ve found this space to get some support from women who understand. I saw that you’ve already written some really supportive replies on other posts, it’s good to see you becoming a part of the community here.

It can be extra difficult sharing a space with an abusive ex after you’ve left the relationship. You may have options around the tenancy. If you wanted to discuss the situation and other sources of support you can access, you could contact our Live Chat (8am – 6pm Monday – Friday and 10am – 6pm weekends) and speak to a support worker.

Take care and keep posting,
Lisa

[Eggshells]

Hi Flitterby

Welcome to the forum.

This is still a really difficult situation for you. As long as you continue to share a home, the abuse will continue and possibly escalate.

As Lisa said, it’s definitely worth looking into your options for an early exit

[Author]

Posts